[misc.handicap] Concert

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    Hi Nadine,
      Check around your area for concert dates, since Pearlman is comming 
here he must touring around the country and you may get lucky and he'll be 
around your area.
   The worst thing about pain is the fear of hurting, when you psych 
yourself up to expect or worry about and always on the alert for it, you 
have all your concentration on it and that makes it feel worse than if you 
just take it as it comes. I know it is hard not to be anxious, but why have 
anxiety attachs as well as pain. Taking pain killers is not a bad thing, if 
you take them cautiously and occasionally. In one of your posts that I read 
today you were talking about hurting but posting anyway- if I'm going to 
hurt anyway I might as well do something I like (I think that was your quote 
or some words to that order). You have hit the button on the head, and if 
you work with it and take your mind off the pain it will seem less. I use as 
a guideline for painkillers the concept that if I can do anything I am ok, 
if it is so intense that I am basically aware of nothing but hurting and 
can't concentrate then it is time for a painkiller. Also if I hurt so much 
that no I can't get to sleep at night and have tried waiting for exhaustion 
to set in and it hasn't be 4 or 5 am. I take a pill. I find that by setting 
up some guide lines I don't have to worry about becoming addicted or having 
to try and function most times muddle headed. This year is my twentieth 
aniverary of not having a day without pain. I have really been suprised with 
how much over the years I have been able to live and function with, I would 
have never beleived it possible for me to go if I had stayed in the frame of 
mind I initialy had when the pain started. You do build a tolerance to it 
just like you can to drugs, also you find ways very quickly of putting it in 
its place, you have already started a philosophy that will move you that 
way. Sometimes you find away of altering how you do something that cuts down 
on the pain, maybe it is an adaptive device or just moving in a different 
way. If you work with the pain instead of letting fear give pain the 
opporunity to work over you then you can really lessen a lot of the pain as 
opposed to letting the pain lessen you. Best wishes with this and a prayer. 
Keep busy, it helps.
                         Pandora

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