[misc.handicap] Sex role first, then disabled ?

Greg.See-Kee@p0.f404.n714.z3.fidonet.org (Greg See-Kee) (03/06/90)

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 RN> Barbara, just tell him that you are a woman first and 
 RN> formost.

I think that I am "Disabled First", then a man.

To be imprisoned into a sex role ...!   My friends who knew me as
a Man, before my traumatic brain damage, tried to relate to me as
a Man.

I found that so revolting.  My women friends had all these crazy
ideas about relating to men ...  These don't work with me now.
One of the very predictable side-effects of my disability is
"loss of libido".

The other people had these illusions about my supposed physical
prowess...  walking, shopping, handyman, gardening, etc.

I found that if I give up the sex role, some simple minded people
are so unsure about relating to me, that we don't feel
comfortable.  However, I am now seeing other more valuable people
who value their life outside of the prison that we call "Sex
Roles".
 

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