Greg.See-Kee@f631.n712.z3.fidonet.org (Greg See-Kee) (06/05/90)
Index Number: 8637
JC> On the other hand, I have never been
JC> successful when actively looking. All my good relationships have
JC> been kinda accidental.
Companionship & mate-searching are the major "hidden agenda" for
many disabled people.
Generally, I say to the 'searchers', to become externally-focussed,
rather than self-focussed. In other words, become TASK-CENTERED,
rather than People-centered.
I found that two people with similar values, similar "goals &
priorities" are much more likely to match in personality as well.
Since in Industrial societies, it is more "polite" to be
Externally-centered, to be more Task-centered, then the
Other-Partners are also doing what you are really doing.
They too have the same "HIDDEN AGENDA" that you have, and often
they too are using the similar tasks/goals as a "cover" for
finding the "Perfect Match".
If you are living in a Pre-Industrial or Post-Industrial setting,
it is ok to state things like:
"I am looking for my Perfect Match. Can you help me!"
My heritage up to the age of 12 (Chinese) was pre-industrial.
And after the age of 17, it became post-industrial. I have
worked with Australia's top "Introduction" agency, in a
professional way, as well as several types of counselling,
berfore my own accident, over 5 years ago.
I still remain single & never-married; "fighting-off" marriage
offers, but now I know that to find Perfect-Match, you need more
psychological matching than I'll explain right here.
Hope this professional insight is valuable to someone.
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Internet: Greg.See-Kee@f631.n712.z3.fidonet.orgFrank.Whitney@f1000.n261.z1.fidonet.org (Frank Whitney) (06/05/90)
Index Number: 8640 > JC> On the other hand, I have never been > JC> successful when actively looking. All my good relationships have > JC> been kinda accidental. > >Companionship & mate-searching are the major "hidden agenda" for >many disabled people. Bull, I've never had any trouble. If your a "wall flower" before your disability or are not disabled it has nothing to do with hidden agenda. >Generally, I say to the 'searchers', to become externally-focussed, >rather than self-focussed. In other words, become TASK-CENTERED, >rather than People-centered. > >I found that two people with similar values, similar "goals & >priorities" are much more likely to match in personality as well. > >Since in Industrial societies, it is more "polite" to be >Externally-centered, to be more Task-centered, then the >Other-Partners are also doing what you are really doing. > >They too have the same "HIDDEN AGENDA" that you have, and often >they too are using the similar tasks/goals as a "cover" for >finding the "Perfect Match". > >If you are living in a Pre-Industrial or Post-Industrial setting, >it is ok to state things like: > > "I am looking for my Perfect Match. Can you help me!" Why can't a person do tha in any era? >My heritage up to the age of 12 (Chinese) was pre-industrial. >And after the age of 17, it became post-industrial. I have >worked with Australia's top "Introduction" agency, in a >professional way, as well as several types of counselling, >berfore my own accident, over 5 years ago. I'm impressed! >I still remain single & never-married; "fighting-off" marriage >offers, but now I know that to find Perfect-Match, you need more >psychological matching than I'll explain right here. Good God, I'm glad your so popular that you have to fight off marriage proposals. Is it because your your monetary riches? Your dynamic personality? Your honesty? Give us a break Greg. It sounds like you use money for buying your so called friends. Do you really expect us to believe you have 20 to 30 girl friends? Are they paid for? You want honesty without tact here it is. Wake up Greg you talk politics yet complain when you ran in a race and comments you said weere used against you. You cited race as the reason you lost. I say it was your own stupidity. >Hope this professional insight is valuable to someone. Yes do the opposite of whatever he recommends and you'll do fine. Thats if you could understand it. frank -- Via Opus Msg Kit v1.01 -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!261!1000!Frank.Whitney Internet: Frank.Whitney@f1000.n261.z1.fidonet.org