Vixen@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org (Vixen) (06/28/90)
Index Number: 8957
Hi Schelia,
Well, as someone has already reminded you, and you found for
yourself, we, as disABLED people, do not automatically come with a
"tough shell and strong heart" simply because we are not able
bodied people.
Rather than be disturbed by your emotions, treasure them and keep
them, for those are probably the very things that make you strong
as well as human!
Often, people tell me that they think I am such an inspiration
because I "appear to be such a strong and adaptable person!" Well,
I am a strong person, but don't think for a moment that I do not
feel emotion! I am not a strong "cold heart", I am very passionate
in my feelings about things!
When you deal with tough situations, you are not "losing" because
you find you must deal with many emotions, you only lose when you
become one of those "automatons" who has no heart and emotion and
may as well live their lives as machines.
I laugh, I cry, I rejoice and sorrow and feel many sensitivities
that may or may not appear "obvious!" I suspect that what you're
saying about your recent experience is, that you are human and have
a heart as well! This is not a weakness, this is not a flaaw, even
when it hurts and is hard to deal with! This is your strength!
Those who do not have this, have nothing, only motion without
meaning!
Just like the rest of us, you can only do the best you can do!
Being disABLED does not mean you are not allowed to be hurt,
frustrated, frightened, angry or sad! Hell, just the opposite, you
probably have a better understanding of these feelings and you
should allow yourself the right to have them!
It is how you "deal" with all of these things that determines how
"tough" you are and the acceptance of your own feelings!
Welcome to the human race!
Keepin' the faith!
. Vixen
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