Vixen@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org (Vixen) (06/28/90)
Index Number: 8959 Hi, On the more negative side, it is true that some abled people simply cannot conceive of going out with a disABLED person and don't think of us as sexual beings. It is just a fact. Personally, men, both abled and disABLED, seem to take much interest me, generally speaking. However, to be blunt, I have had male friends who very much wanted to "bed me" and were very obviously attracted to me (both to me and others in their obviousness.) and some almost always seemed to be "nearby." As I have become more disABLED and dependant on the use of appliances to keep in the mainstream of life. Some of these guys just could not handle that at all or they at least did not want to be seen going around with a disABLED women with hearing devices and a white cane and so on. It didn't matter how good looking your Vixen is to them. I will be honest and say that I resent that, but at the same time, none of those S.O.B.'s ever got me in bed and now for sure, never will! I figure it is their loss, not mine! But their stupidity does make me mad. Right now, as a woman who knows that "men" like her quite a bit, and who also happens to be disABLED, it is surprising just how slow my actual social life can be compared to the fantasy life some have told me they thought I lived!! I have sometimes wondered what is the greater social disability, being a "disABLED woman" or being an "attractive woman." But, the combination is pretty hard to overcome! It seems like I have to be so "socially open and flirty" or many men think that I am "snobby, stand offish and couldn't possibly be interested in them!" It drives me right up the wall. It doesn't ever seem to occur to "them", that "I" might be insecure about my disabilities, health problems or personality flaws!! Oh well, we all keep working at it! I think I need to start an echo for this topic all alone! Keepin' the faith! . Vixen -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!203!11!Vixen Internet: Vixen@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org