Betty.Draughon@p10.f1.n360.z1.fidonet.org (Betty Draughon) (06/29/90)
Index Number: 8985 Gary - This message was misdirected to me, so I am sending it your way in the chance you did not catch it the first time around. Hope you are feeling better. I bid you Peace. Betty In a message to Betty Draughon <19 Jun 90 20:48:00> Greg See-Kee wrote: > GA>> I lost by hearing to Meniere's disease or sometimes called Meniere's > GA>> syndrome when I was 36 years old. What a slam. GS> > GA>> My question is how can you learn to live with it after having my > GA>> hearing for 36 yrs. and then have nothing. GS> > BD> I dunno, Gary. GS> See if you agree with me, Gary. GS> 1) Trying to live the "old-self" GS> 2) Medical shock/ surprise that this can happen GS> 3) Denying it, being angry, feeling guilty GS> 4) Bargaining, experimenting, "magical" solution-hunting GS> 5) Depression, resignation GS> 6) Inward searching, vulnerable but passively accepting GS> 7) New self-image, actively projecting the new-self GS> 8) Outwardly focussed. GS> It is like divorce. So you had twenty or so years living Stage GS> One. But experienced counsellors know that the "formula" might GS> be, say five years institutionalization takes one full year of GS> de-institutalization. GS> Put in plain language, it might take you four years to move from GS> Stage One to Stage Eight of the above process. GS> I have yet to work out what the "formula" might be if you became GS> disabled, say, when you were fifty years old instead. GS> Your disability has parallels to mine, which oocurred five years GS> ago at the my age of 35 years. > GA>> I don't have the money to go to a shrink and have felt like a > GA>> shutin with all of my so called friends disappearing from me. GS> > BD> Okay, now listen. You are absolutely correct in calling them > BD> your "so-called" friends. Friends wouldn't disappear. GS> We both know that Betty's experiences are different to yours and GS> to mine. > GA>> Anyway I love you all and please talk to me. GS> > BD> I love you, too. GS> Actually, we are not the first people to ever experience this GS> Christopher Columbus voyage. The whole path has been very GS> detailed in its entirety by millions of travellers before us. GS> I feel sorry that you don't have access to the "Road Maps" as GS> you start your new voyage, thirty or forty years ahead of any GS> schedule that would normally be expected. GS> If there is any room in this conference, I'll detail whatever you GS> might need to know later. -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!360!1.10!Betty.Draughon Internet: Betty.Draughon@p10.f1.n360.z1.fidonet.org