[misc.handicap] counseling

ala@hpinddf.cup.hp.com (Alyson Abramowitz) (07/03/90)

Index Number: 9015

I read with interest Greg See-Kee's comments on counselors.  I've had a
friend of mine recently apply for a position counselling (primarily job
related) disabilities.  My experience with such positions (and what
I've heard from others) initially made me want to disuade him from the
job.

That job should be an essential one.  I believe we need some
competent people in those kind of roles.  So, I was wondering if
people had some more positive feedback.  What do you want a
counselor to know and do for you?  What kind of background do you
consider appropriate?  What could the person do if they didn't have
the background to gain those credentials (whether formal or
informal)?  If you feel this question is too open, consentrate it
on vocational/job counselling.

Lets assume, for the moment, we have counselors which are motivated to
do a really good job.  They probably have a background in psychology or
human resources but not necessarily disabilities (this has been my
experience, at least).

So what do you want/need  such a counselor to do and know?  What do you
NOT want them to do?  I look forward to the responces.

Joe.Chamberlain@f140.n150.z1.fidonet.org (Joe Chamberlain) (07/18/90)

Index Number: 9223

 AA> From: ala@hpinddf.cup.hp.com (Alyson Abramowitz)
 AA> Message-ID: <12599@bunker.UUCP>
 AA> Index Number: 9015
     
 AA> That job should be an essential one.  I believe we need some
 AA> competent people in those kind of roles.  So, I was wondering if
 AA> people had some more positive feedback.  What do you want a
 AA> counselor to know and do for you?  What kind of background do you
 AA> consider appropriate?  What could the person do if they didn't have
 AA> the background to gain those credentials (whether formal or
 AA> informal)?  If you feel this question is too open, consentrate it
 AA> on vocational/job counselling.
     
        Let's assume that if the job requires the counselor to
work with persons with disabilities then the counselor should
also have a disability.

        Nothing is more discouraging then to have some able
bodies person tell you you can't do that.  I had that experience.
I became the first elementary school teacher in my state in spite
of my counselor.  I later held a position as a rehab counselor
and just encountered two of my former clients in the past year.
One, a C-5 quad heads a security monitoring facility.  The other,
a T-6 para, faces jail time for illegal arms sales.  Both very
successful in their choosen fields.

        The point is the disabled cliet should be encouraged by
disabled counselors to achieve.  Encourage to try.  Exort to
their highest limits.  Do not place any obstacles in their path
with preconceived standards.  Another former client works for a
government syp organization in codes and cyphers.  There should
never be any limits except those imposed by the client, and even
they should be clearly evaluated and questioned.

        Hope this helps.
                                -=joe=-

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Steve.Bonine@p0.f777.n115.z1.fidonet.org (Steve Bonine) (07/19/90)

Index Number: 9276

 JC>         Let's assume that if the job requires the counselor to
 JC> work with persons with disabilities then the counselor should
 JC> also have a disability.

Let's not.

What you're saying is that persons who are not disabled are
incapable of providing encouragement, and that persons who ARE
disabled are always infallible in deciding whether a disabled
person can accomplish a given task.  This is a stereotype at its
best.

It's a fine theory that someone with a handicap is better qualified
to council handicapped folks.  I think it's just that -- a theory.
I am sure that there are many very-capable non-handicapped people
who work with the handicapped.  I am just as sure that there are
some handicapped jerks out there in the field.

This is the same mentality that says that handicapped people CAN'T
do things; it's just applied in reverse.  And it's just as wrong in
that direction.

 JC>         The point is the disabled cliet should be encouraged by
 JC> disabled counselors to achieve.  

Your sentence reads much better without either of the DISABLED's in it.

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Nadine.Thomas@p59.f1.n360.z1.fidonet.org (Nadine Thomas) (07/19/90)

Index Number: 9278

In a message to Alyson Abramowitz <06 Jul 90  5:39:00> Joe Chamberlain wrote:

 JC>        Let's assume that if the job requires the counselor to
 JC> work with persons with disabilities then the counselor should
 JC> also have a disability.

 JC>        Nothing is more discouraging then to have some able
 JC> bodies person tell you you can't do that.  I had that experience.

Joe, there are counselors WITH disabilities that do the same
discouraging that some of the TAB's do.

For me it is difficult having a voc.rehab. counselor with a
disability because I am continually comparing myself with her -
look at her, in a wheelchair, limited use of hands, and she
finished college, works full time, is married, has kids, has FOSTER
kids, has clients come to her home on thanksgiving and christmas
etc.  and here I am.........42, no college degree, no job, no
family, lucky if my dishes get washed and my floor swept and mopped
- sigh.

Nadine
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Greg.See-Kee@f631.n712.z3.fidonet.org (Greg See-Kee) (07/25/90)

Index Number: 9507

 SB> What you're saying is that persons who are not disabled are 
 SB> incapable of providing encouragement, and that persons who ARE 
 SB> disabled are always infallible in deciding whether a disabled 
 SB> person can accomplish a given task.

I think that very few people know what "empathy of loss" is,
until they have experienced the loss of a loved one.   In my
own caes, I still have not experienced the loss of a loved
one.

As many readers of my messages can plainly see, I really am
not the best counsellor for someone undergoing traditional
bereavement.

There are several types of counselling.  Not every type
suits every person all the time.  My approach is
rational-emotive.  Others use more Gestalt, or more
behavioural approaches.

Currently all rehabilitation training & rehabilitation
treatment is Socio-illiterate".  What this means is that
practically everything being dished out to the clients by
the so-called professional people, does not suit most
people, most of the time.

Ideally, the therapist should measure the psycho-sociology
ofthe client, then custom-mould the matching treatment
process.  The flaw in the whole step is that very few, if
any, professional do-gooders have the ability to mould
themselves for the wide variety & the overwhelming numbers
of clients.   For a quick undersatanding of this process, I
suggest you see the WOODY ALLEN movie or video-tape:
"CHAMELEON".

 SB> Your sentence reads much better without either of the 
 SB> DISABLED's in it. 

Being disabled has some similarities to other human traumas.
But it is different, just as death, car-smashes, stroke,
being-raped, losing-home are all very different.
Experience shows that specialist counsellors, adapted to
each speciality, are the best.  Our "ideals" unfortunately
often clash with reality.

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