Barbara.Akin@p0.f15.n114.z1.fidonet.org (Barbara Akin) (08/28/90)
Index Number: 10008
Hi Mark. I have to say, I thought maybe Joe was a little hard on you
concerning this topic of dating. I don't know how old you are, but I am
now in my late thirtys, and am single again after my husband left 3
years ago. I have partisipated in a couple of really good support groups
for persons who've gone through this, and one of the topics ofcourse,
was when to date again and Where to find the kind of people you would
like to date.
I am the only disabled woman in these groups, and the non-disabled
people have a hard time finding really quality people to go out with.
So, I disagree with Joe as far as totally ignoring the posibility of
using a dating service. But, beware, I think most of them are real
rackets, and they are out to take advantage of people's lonliness and
get their money. However, there are some that are legitimate. One
service I have heard of is one called People Net, run by a disabled guy,
Robert Morrow, that is supposed to be rather good. Robert is truly
interested in helping to bring people together with one another, I'll
try and dig up the number for you. I agree with Joe though when he says,
look around, ask girls from where you work, etc.
Personally, I try to let my disability fade into the back ground, and
people will be focusing on who I am rather than the disability.
Another disagreement I have with Joe is his saying that 99 percent of
the dating population is looking for a Tom Kruse, etc. Not so, most
people I know (myself included) are just wanting to find a relationship
with someone to whom they are attracked, and with whom they can truly be
best friends, and share their life with. Just a real, warm, and honest
relationship between two people. Now true, there are those folks out
there looking for Mr. or Miss perfection, but those folks are usually
pretty shallow individuals anyway. If all you want is somebody gorgious
to jump into the sack with, then your life is pretty shallow!
Joes is right however when he says just get out there and deal! A dating
service should be only a Part of your whole dating stratigy. I wouldn't
rely totally on Any dating service. Use them for what they're worth, you
might find some one wonderful, you might not, but just get out there and
Ask, it never hurts.
I hope you find this encouraging.
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Internet: Barbara.Akin@p0.f15.n114.z1.fidonet.orgBarbara.Akin@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org (Barbara Akin) (09/20/90)
Index Number: 10538
Pandora, I agree. My computer has opened so many doors for me it is
really quite unbelievable. I haven't used mine as ameans of dating
yet, but I have sure used it for a lot of other stuff.
As I mentioned before though,I dothink it is really a great way to
meet people. You get to know them on a prettypersonal
basisthroughthe computer first.
I think most people feel more comfortable typing to the screen,
they don't feel threatened, and so are more willing to share and to
be rather open.
Well, I'm sittting here with company, so I'dbetter get off here for
now. Chat again later.
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Internet: Barbara.Akin@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.orgPaul.Bergeron@f8.n396.z1.fidonet.org (Paul Bergeron) (09/20/90)
Index Number: 10541
I don't see anything wrong with meeting people over the computer. The
computer has been a real ice breaker for me. I am pretty shy, and have a
hard time walking up to someone and saying hi. I can go to a bar, and a
woman can spend an hour looking me right in the eyes, and I won't get up
to talk to her. But here on the computer it is easy. I have also tried
those personal ads in the newspapers. I met a school teacher, Legal
secretary, and a woman who has her own business. I guess i am not the
only one who is shy. What a relief!!!
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Internet: Paul.Bergeron@f8.n396.z1.fidonet.orgRon.Rothenberg@f460.n101.z1.fidonet.org (Ron Rothenberg) (09/21/90)
Index Number: 10603
I post this again because so many people have had such pleasing results
with this method:
Tired of those expensive dating services for the dis-
abled? Then try PEOPLENET. We do it better. Yes, people
who meet in PEOPLENET do marry. PEOPLENET is an inter-
national personals/networking print newsletter by &
for disabled men & woman who'd like to meet other in-
teresting men or women. Nondisabled can subscribe. A
few have. Each issue contains the 30-word personal or
networking ads of our subscribers, included free with
each subscription. PEOPLENET is published 3 times a
year, 8-months' subscription is $17. We've gone inter-
national! So join the fun. Meet great man & woman
from around the world or right next door. PEOPLENET
IS WHATEVER YOU WANT IT TO BE. And it's about 5 times
cheaper than any dating service! Moreover, it's for
disabled & nondisabled. If you'd like a FREE brochure
and application, send SASE to PEOPLENET, P.O. Box 897,
Levittown, NY 11756. PEOPLENET also has fiction, poems,
book reviews & articles on dating, image, friendship
and sexuality. PEOPLENET is where people meet people.
... Be yourself. Who is better qualified?
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