Barbara.Akin@p0.f15.n114.z1.fidonet.org (Barbara Akin) (08/28/90)
Index Number: 10008 Hi Mark. I have to say, I thought maybe Joe was a little hard on you concerning this topic of dating. I don't know how old you are, but I am now in my late thirtys, and am single again after my husband left 3 years ago. I have partisipated in a couple of really good support groups for persons who've gone through this, and one of the topics ofcourse, was when to date again and Where to find the kind of people you would like to date. I am the only disabled woman in these groups, and the non-disabled people have a hard time finding really quality people to go out with. So, I disagree with Joe as far as totally ignoring the posibility of using a dating service. But, beware, I think most of them are real rackets, and they are out to take advantage of people's lonliness and get their money. However, there are some that are legitimate. One service I have heard of is one called People Net, run by a disabled guy, Robert Morrow, that is supposed to be rather good. Robert is truly interested in helping to bring people together with one another, I'll try and dig up the number for you. I agree with Joe though when he says, look around, ask girls from where you work, etc. Personally, I try to let my disability fade into the back ground, and people will be focusing on who I am rather than the disability. Another disagreement I have with Joe is his saying that 99 percent of the dating population is looking for a Tom Kruse, etc. Not so, most people I know (myself included) are just wanting to find a relationship with someone to whom they are attracked, and with whom they can truly be best friends, and share their life with. Just a real, warm, and honest relationship between two people. Now true, there are those folks out there looking for Mr. or Miss perfection, but those folks are usually pretty shallow individuals anyway. If all you want is somebody gorgious to jump into the sack with, then your life is pretty shallow! Joes is right however when he says just get out there and deal! A dating service should be only a Part of your whole dating stratigy. I wouldn't rely totally on Any dating service. Use them for what they're worth, you might find some one wonderful, you might not, but just get out there and Ask, it never hurts. I hope you find this encouraging. -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!114!15.0!Barbara.Akin Internet: Barbara.Akin@p0.f15.n114.z1.fidonet.org
Barbara.Akin@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org (Barbara Akin) (09/20/90)
Index Number: 10538 Pandora, I agree. My computer has opened so many doors for me it is really quite unbelievable. I haven't used mine as ameans of dating yet, but I have sure used it for a lot of other stuff. As I mentioned before though,I dothink it is really a great way to meet people. You get to know them on a prettypersonal basisthroughthe computer first. I think most people feel more comfortable typing to the screen, they don't feel threatened, and so are more willing to share and to be rather open. Well, I'm sittting here with company, so I'dbetter get off here for now. Chat again later. -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!203!11!Barbara.Akin Internet: Barbara.Akin@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org
Paul.Bergeron@f8.n396.z1.fidonet.org (Paul Bergeron) (09/20/90)
Index Number: 10541 I don't see anything wrong with meeting people over the computer. The computer has been a real ice breaker for me. I am pretty shy, and have a hard time walking up to someone and saying hi. I can go to a bar, and a woman can spend an hour looking me right in the eyes, and I won't get up to talk to her. But here on the computer it is easy. I have also tried those personal ads in the newspapers. I met a school teacher, Legal secretary, and a woman who has her own business. I guess i am not the only one who is shy. What a relief!!! -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!396!8!Paul.Bergeron Internet: Paul.Bergeron@f8.n396.z1.fidonet.org
Ron.Rothenberg@f460.n101.z1.fidonet.org (Ron Rothenberg) (09/21/90)
Index Number: 10603 I post this again because so many people have had such pleasing results with this method: Tired of those expensive dating services for the dis- abled? Then try PEOPLENET. We do it better. Yes, people who meet in PEOPLENET do marry. PEOPLENET is an inter- national personals/networking print newsletter by & for disabled men & woman who'd like to meet other in- teresting men or women. Nondisabled can subscribe. A few have. Each issue contains the 30-word personal or networking ads of our subscribers, included free with each subscription. PEOPLENET is published 3 times a year, 8-months' subscription is $17. We've gone inter- national! So join the fun. Meet great man & woman from around the world or right next door. PEOPLENET IS WHATEVER YOU WANT IT TO BE. And it's about 5 times cheaper than any dating service! Moreover, it's for disabled & nondisabled. If you'd like a FREE brochure and application, send SASE to PEOPLENET, P.O. Box 897, Levittown, NY 11756. PEOPLENET also has fiction, poems, book reviews & articles on dating, image, friendship and sexuality. PEOPLENET is where people meet people. ... Be yourself. Who is better qualified? -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!101!460!Ron.Rothenberg Internet: Ron.Rothenberg@f460.n101.z1.fidonet.org