Vixen@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org (Vixen) (10/26/90)
Index Number: 11303 [This is from the Blink Talk Conference] Hi, Well, I will give ya that one Henry. You are right, if you do blow up at someone because they offer to help you, you are only an ambassador for yourself, not for all blind people. If a person should think that one blind person represents all other blind persons, than that person is the one with the real problem. I don't know, maybe I am just really wired different. People offer to help many times per day with things that I need absolutely no assistance with. I have no problem giving them a simple no thanks and going on my way. I suppose I could get frustrated by these repeated offers, but I don't see any point in it. I have more serious problems in my life without giving that much attention to such offers. But then, we are all different. Keepin' the faith! . Vixen -- -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!203!11!Vixen Internet: Vixen@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org
Vixen@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org (Vixen) (10/31/90)
Index Number: 11388 [This is from the Blink Talk Conference] Hi Henry, Yes, you are right, I tend to feel I have more important things to worry about than my vision loss. Also, I don't see any point in worrying or whining about it because niether can do a damn thing for it! It is just part of who I am now and there came a time when I just had to accept that and get on with the business of living. I am honest enough to admit that I am not yet quite so objective about my hearing going away, but even that, I must come to terms with and again get on with the business of living. I find myself far my annoyed with disABLED people who seem to feel disability is license to lop someones head off for being uninformed or trying to simply be helpful than I ever ever become annoyed at offers of un-needed assistance. Certainly, we all have bad days and moods and are only human, but I have found that I can still refuse help when I am in a bad frame of mind without chopping someone to pieces. I have found that the word "no" works effectively. But as you say, we most certainly are all different! Keepin' the faith! . Vixen -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!203!11!Vixen Internet: Vixen@f11.n203.z1.fidonet.org
Steve.Bauer@f6.n291.z1.fidonet.org (Steve Bauer) (11/02/90)
Index Number: 11464 [This is from the Blink Talk Conference] Even though sometimes it can be irritating to have people offering to help, I personally don't want to discourage that. I do appreciate assistance and face it, sometimes a little help makes life a lot easier. Steve/ -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!291!6!Steve.Bauer Internet: Steve.Bauer@f6.n291.z1.fidonet.org