Brian.Lewis@f603.n151.z1.fidonet.org (Brian Lewis) (06/25/91)
Index Number: 16442 [This is from the Blink Talk Conference] I am one who usually accepts help when it's offered. I figure that if I do, then that person will offer to help the next blind person they see as well. But, it's important that if a blind person accepts help when they really don't need it, they should be careful that the person doesn't help them the wrong way. Case in point: One day I was walking down the street when I came to a crossing. Someone offered to help me, and I accepted. It was a busy intersection,and what happened was that he helped me across the wrong street because I wasn't paying attention. I eventually righted myself, but it took me a few minutes. I guess what I'd say about the whole thing is that it's a good idea to accept help even when you don't necessarily need it. The next blind person who comes along may really need it, and if a person really wishes to help, then why not go ahead and let themfeel good. --Brian /es -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!151!603!Brian.Lewis Internet: Brian.Lewis@f603.n151.z1.fidonet.org
Donna.Siren@p19.f5.n396.z1.fidonet.org (Donna Siren) (06/28/91)
Index Number: 16538 [This is from the Blink Talk Conference] BL> I am one who usually accepts help when it's offered. I figure that if I BL> do, then that person will offer to help the next blind person they see as BL> well I don't think this is necessarily true, however I do feel that how we refuse help is more important than whether or not we refuse it. If a blind person is rude in refusing help, then chances are that person will think twice about offering help, but if we are nice about it, refusing with a "no thank you, I'm fine" or something along those lines, then I'm sure that sighted person wouldn't mind their help being refused and would probably offer help to another blind person in the future. Donna -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!396!5.19!Donna.Siren Internet: Donna.Siren@p19.f5.n396.z1.fidonet.org
David.Tanner@f210.n273.z1.fidonet.org (David Tanner) (06/28/91)
Index Number: 16561 [This is from the Blink Talk Conference] BL>> I am one who usually accepts help when it's offered. I figure that if I BL>> do, then that person will offer to help the next blind person they see as BL>> well DS> I don't think this is necessarily true, however I do feel that DS> how we refuse help is more important than whether or not we DS> refuse it. If a blind person is rude in refusing help, then DS> chances are that person will think twice about offering help, DS> but if we are nice about it, refusing with a "no thank you, I'm DS> fine" or something along those lines, then I'm sure that DS> sighted person wouldn't mind their help being refused and would DS> probably offer help to another blind person in the future. DS> Donna I have to agree and wonder how many sighted people have decided never to speak to another blind person because they got scolded for petting their guidedog. Myself, I find it much better to let the person pet the dog if I am standing waiting for a light to change or for a train to come to the platform than to be rude and take the chance that the person will be offended and maybe not help me or some other blind person when they really need some help. I have met a lot of really nice sighted people traveling on the commuter trains here at Phillie and I have developed several friendships with these people that would not have happened had I taken the same attitude that a lot of blind folks take toward accepting a little help whether it is needed or not. D. T. -- Uucp: ..!{decvax,oliveb}!bunker!hcap!hnews!273!210!David.Tanner Internet: David.Tanner@f210.n273.z1.fidonet.org