Arlene.Kunigel@p0.f89.n129.z1.fidonet.org (Arlene Kunigel) (06/28/91)
Index Number: 16551
[This is from the Blink Talk Conference]
It never ceases to amaze me, the more education we do, the more the
public needs. But you know the problem isn't just with other people
telling a blind parent how to parent, but look at how parents of grown
blind children treat them. No matter how hard I try, my parents still
have some antiquated ideas about blindness and how I should do things.
Hang in there, maybe if we are consistently together the world will
change some day, at least we can hope.
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Internet: Arlene.Kunigel@p0.f89.n129.z1.fidonet.orgSusan.Goldfield@f1089.n261.z1.fidonet.org (Susan Goldfield) (06/28/91)
Index Number: 16579
[This is from the Blink Talk Conference]
Hi Eric,
I will send your congratulatory remarks to David. He is very
happy at Blazie Engineering and he finally get's paid to play
with the Braille 'N Speak all day <grin> Only kidding of course,
but I am happy he works for a company he respects now.
I see how easy it can be to fall into the "parenting trap"
with your spouse. David and I chose to live together before we
got married to help make our life as realistic as possible. It
was an important time for us. We both are mature enough to know
that love doesn't make a marriage perfect. I have never found
myself parenting David, but occassionally, when I've had a rough
day, I fall short on patience. I have to remind myself that sometimes
David is slower on some tasks than I am. This in no way reflects
on David, but on myself.
I am sorry to hear that you had troubles in your relationship
because of your spouses inability to accept your blindness. I
can see how unrealistic expectations and the way society treats
sighted and blind couples can have its wear and tear on a
relationship. It isn't easy all the time. When these times come,
I just make sure we talk about it-- no one is able to completly
ignore all the awful comments people can say. I learned to go to
David with my pain, not try to blain him with my pain. I love
the man, not the eyes.
Glad you wrote to me. It does help sharing these feelings on
this echo. Keeps us all a bit sane, huh? Talk to you soon...Sue
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