[soc.feminism] men&women: same or different?

nk09+@andrew.cmu.edu (Nicholas Kushmerick) (08/25/90)

Hi --

I've been thinking about a contradiction that I've noticed in the the
feminist movement.  I'm sure that this has been discussed at length by
feminists but as I'm no scholar of feminist theory I have not yet run
across an acceptable resolution.  Let me try to explain...

As I see it, the major belief that feminists espouse is that men and
women are physically different, but that these differences should in no
way their relationships with each other, because (1) the physical
differences tend to matter only slightly (e.g. maybe it would be thought
that a hunter should be strong (ie, a man), but then again, maybe
light-footed (ie, woman) hunters would have an advantages; each gender
has its strengths and weaknesses with respect to hunting), and (2) even
if the differences mattered, the differences *among* men and *among*
women are large compared to the differences *between* men and women
(e.g., you can always find a very tall women, a man with a very
high-pitched voice, etc.).

Psychological differences are another matter.  Here, the differences are
admitted to be great, due to societal pressure to for women to act
"feminine" and men to act "masculine."  Therefore, given some time and
maybe some sort of direct action, it is hope that these pressures will
dissipate, and the psychological differences will just disappear, since
there was never any biological basis for them.

In other words, today, men and women are difference but these
differences are either unimportant, small, or unrelated to gender in a
biological way.

This all makes sense and I agree.  However,  I've also heard some
feminist statements that contradict this.  For example, the other day I
heard a speech by Helen Coldicott saying (major paraphrase) that men
cause wars because they just don't have the right maternal instincts,
etc.  If, she seems to think, men really cared about their children,
their future, their friends, as much as women, they would see war as
stupid and would never give it a second thought.  Unfortunately, there
are very few women in positions of power who could make "the women's
position" known and thus wars go on.  The solution, she says, is for
women so seize control and set humankind back on the right course.  I
could go on about the details of the supposed differences but I think
you see my point.

So I hope you can see my concern:  Which is it?  Are men and women
equivalent save those ways that societies bend us?  Or are we really
different, and are their feminists out there who believe that women's
ways/beliefs/values/instincts are superior?

I assume that there are different schools of thought in the feminist
movement, and that some might agree more or less with either of these
positions.  But this contradiction seems quite startling to me, and I
can see no way to straddle the fence.

Me?  I think that rationally the first model of gender makes more sense.
 The problem is that empirically, the second does seem reasonable.   I
of course keep telling myself that what I perceive as gender differences
are just those nasty old results of societal pressures.

Comments, questions and suggested reading are all welcome, either posted
to this board or through private mail to me:   kushmerick@andrew.cmu.edu

-- Nick

morris@carcoar.Stanford.EDU (Kate Morris) (08/25/90)

I recently read an article that helped me understand the differences in
feminism.  It's by Ann Snitnow, and appeared in Dissent magazine, Spring
89.  The article is called "Pages from a Gender Diary", subtitled "Basic
Divisions in Feminism".  I'm not going to type it in, 'cos it'd take too
long and I have a dissertation to finish.  Briefly, it summarises the two
basic tendencies in feminism:  moving towards androgeny, and celebrating
the ways in which women are different to men.  This has been discussed for
a long time: "minimizers" vs "maximisers"; "radical" vs "cultural"
feminism, "essentialists" vs "social constructionists", American vs French
feminists, and so on.  Most of us agree with one side some of the time, and
the other side at other times.

Anyway, try and find it.  It's worth reading.

	-Kate Morris
	 morris@cs.stanford.edu

turpin@cs.utexas.edu (Russell Turpin) (08/25/90)

-----
Mr Kushmerick summarizes one version of feminism, the egalitarian
view:

> In other words, today, men and women are difference but these
> differences are either unimportant, small, or unrelated to gender in a
> biological way.

But then he notes that there is another feminist line of thought:

> ....  For example, the other day I heard a speech by Helen Coldicott
> saying (major paraphrase) that men cause wars because they just don't
> have the right maternal instincts, etc. ...
>
> ... Which is it?  Are men and women equivalent save those ways
> that societies bend us?  Or are we really different, and are their
> feminists out there who believe that women's ways/beliefs/values/
> instincts are superior?

I do not find it disturbing that there are two different schools
of thought on this issue, since many movements encompass multiple
and irreconciliable branches.  What bothers me is that often the
same writer or thinker relies on both of these conflicting ideas,
choosing the one that is convenient to the political claim of the
moment.  

If, for example, the innate psychological differences between men
and women are so great that they explain the phenomenon of war,
then they are certainly large enough to explain a gap in the
success of the two genders in the business world.  But when faced
with the disparity in earnings between women and men, do those
feminists who think that women speak with a "different voice"
leave room for the possibility that this disparity in earnings is
a natural result of it?  No, they do not.  Here, they insist that
any difference is the result of unfair discrimination. 

Feh!  You cannot have it both ways.  If men and women are so
similar that any statistical difference in professional success
(dollars earned, presence in boardrooms, representation in
certain fields, etc) is a sign of discrimination, then there is
little sense in talking about women's values or their "different
voice".  If, on the other hand, one believes that women are
significantly different from men in this way, then when one sees
a statistical difference in the professional world, one has to
ask whether this is caused by the underlying difference in
thought between the two genders.  (Indeed, many have noted that
the traits required for sucess are the same in the boardroom and
the war room.  Helen Caldicott should note this.)

Russell

BOYDJ%QUCDN.QueensU.CA@EVANS.UCAR.EDU (Jeff Boyd) (08/25/90)

Do you *need* a resolution to this question ?  Given an answer, might
you modify your behaviour in some way ?  I wouldn't mine. No answer
would change the way I feel I should treat other people. Dwelling on
such questions suggests to me that there are people who wish to use
gender as a criterion for putting certain people in certain places .

ROPERK%QUCDN.QueensU.CA@EVANS.UCAR.EDU (08/25/90)

Equivalence requires specification i.e. saying that men and women
are equivalent *period* is incorrect.  Men and women are
equivalent for purposes of voting; they are not equivalent
when it comes to heavy lifting, although a woman who can
lift x kilograms is certainly equivalent to a man who lift
x kg.

The problem here is partly one of semantics (equality vs equivalence),
but the hidden aspect is the propensity that people have to extrapolate
the qualities of individuals to select groups of which they are members.
It reduces the need to listen or think.  I suspect that the most
appropriate word here is "prejudice".

One can justifiably believe that women would be less likely to instigate
war in a gender reversed world, or even in one which would allow them to
take a large share of power.  HOWEVER, the point which is dutifully avoided
by most of those people which I have heard espouse this view is that
*attitudes toward women would have to change for this to become a
possibility, and this may alter attitudes of individual women*.  And
given that this is extrapolation, this affects the assumed opinions of
the group.

Gotta love selectively dynamic systems and bad mathematics ....

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marla@lucerne.Eng.Sun.COM (Marla Parker) (08/28/90)

In article <90237.095518BOYDJ@QUCDN.BITNET> BOYDJ%QUCDN.QueensU.CA@EVANS.UCAR.EDU (Jeff Boyd) writes:
>Do you *need* a resolution to this question ?  Given an answer, might
>you modify your behaviour in some way ?  I wouldn't mine. No answer
>would change the way I feel I should treat other people. 

The resolution of this question for me is important not to how I
treat people but to how I donate money or cast votes.  I would
not vote for a supposed feminist (male or female) who says things
that imply women are, actually, superior to men and if we women
had been running things the world would be a much nicer, cozier,
nurturing place.  What crap.  The only way to improve the world is
to employ all the brain power on earth and use it to do a lot of
very hard work.

The world *might* be a better place if women had won equal rights
from the beginning instead of at this late date - I'd like to think
so - but this doesn't mean we are somehow better or even special.
Who is subjugated doesn't really matter.  Subjugation itself is
what corrupts life and wastes brain power.


--
Marla Parker		(415) 336-2538
marla@eng.sun.com

gazit%oberon.usc.edu@usc.edu (Hillel) (09/13/90)

In article <9009112047.AA09791@Arezzo.ORC.Olivetti.Com> jan@orc.olivetti.COM (Jan Parcel) writes:

>The archaeological digs in Europe mentioned in _The_ _Chalice_ and the
>_Blade_, by Riane Eisler, and the way of life of the Native Americans,
>indicates that it is possible to have a workable society that is not
>based on success only for aggressive people.  

Why the examples of non-aggressive societies are always based on *old* societies
that did not leave too many records behind?  Why nobody presents a clear
example, where there is enough data to know how the society *really* worked?

>If a person says that success by brutal competition in business is the
>"best" system solely because it can be, and has been, imposed by
>force, then I reserve the right to use any force to fight against it.
>Including AA, socialism, or anything else.  

The idea behind Affirmative Action is to put men in a situation where
they have to try *harder*, while women can take it more easy.

>If survival of the
>survivor is the ONLY criterion, and morality doesn't enter into it,
>then I have the right to lie, cheat, steal, and anything else to
>change the system, as I am at war with it.

No, you just reinforce the system in a more ugly way.

>The way the world is going right now, it looks
>(subjectively, to me) like the male of the species insists on brutal
>competition.

The way the world is going right now, it looks
(subjectively, to me) like the female of the species insists that the
male of the species will be in brutal competition.

It is done by traditional women who look for success objects,
and it is done by feminist women who try to create a situation
(under a smoke screen of talking about "temporary" solutions)
were men will have to try harder.

>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ jan@orc.olivetti.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Hillel                                              gazit@cs.duke.edu

"The continuation of earnings gap between men and women, the decimation of
affirmative action in order to protect white men from `reverse discrimination',
the rise of male victories in child custody cases - all of these attest to the
need for a way to galvanize women's opposition and women's power in the 1980s."
            --  ("Caught Looking", Kate Ellis, Barbara O'Dair & Abby Tallmer)

turpin@cs.utexas.edu (Russell Turpin) (09/13/90)

I wrote:
>> If, for example, the innate psychological differences between men
>> and women are so great that they explain the phenomenon of war,
>> then they are certainly large enough to explain a gap in the
>> success of the two genders in the business world.  But when faced
>> with the disparity in earnings between women and men, do those
>> feminists who think that women speak with a "different voice"
>> leave room for the possibility that this disparity in earnings is
>> a natural result of it?  No, they do not.  Here, they insist that
>> any difference is the result of unfair discrimination.
>>
>> Feh!  You cannot have it both ways. ...

I would like to amplify this a bit.  There are many ethical stances
that assume neither innate equality between the sexes, nor innate
differences between them.  A liberal in the classical mode might argue
that we should root out unfair kinds of discrimination wherever we
find them, but that we should be satisfied with what group differences
remain after this is done.  My critique was aimed primarily against
those who argue both lines, choosing the one that is most convenient
at the time.

Ms. Parcel describes an ethical stance where neither assumption is
made:

In article <9009112047.AA09791@Arezzo.ORC.Olivetti.Com>, jan@orc.olivetti.COM (Jan Parcel) writes:
> I take it both ways for working purposes.  Before flaming, let me
> explain. 
>
> I think there will turn out to be innate differences, when all the
> socialization is stripped off.  I hope these differences are smaller
> than they appear now. ...
> 
> I *hope* that most of women's apparently-natural peacefulness is
> born of the experience of childraising ...
> 
> I *hope* that a most of men's apparent will to dominate is a result 
> of a cultural paradigm requiring men to control women so they know 
> which kids are theirs. ...
>
> But, even if it turns out that some of this *is* inborn, IF THE
> BUSINESS WORLD IS DESIGNED BY MEN FOR MEN, then it is likely designed
> to optimize for male traits, and I OBJECT TO THIS.  It *is* a form of
> discrimination to create a world that witholds food and shelter and
> freedom from those who do not match the traits of the group in
> control. ...

How one argues for something affects the particular results that one
reaches.  If one is seeking economic equality between the sexes,
regardless of the source of inequality, then instead of
anti-discrimination and affirmative action measures, one might lean
toward more direct palliatives, such as a gender sensitive taxing
scheme or other redistributive program.

If Ms. Parcel is going to base her recommendations on egalitarianism,
she also needs to consider the broader implications of this.  Even
more than the business world being "designed" by men for men, it is
"designed" by smart, ambitious people for the benefit of smart,
ambitious people.  Despite the problems in measuring native
intelligence, there is no doubt that some of us are born with more
than our fair share, and others of us will never be able to do much
more than menial work, regardless of educational opportunity.  Should
we seek economic equality between the smart and the slow?  There is
now quite a bit of evidence that depression and other non-cognitive
mental traits are also inherited.  It is plain that chronic depression
can severely hamper one's business aspirations.  Should we seek
economic equality between the depressed and those with a normal
emotional framework?

For what differences in traits and abilities should a social system
compensate?  Is there any reason that those associated with gender
should receive better treatment than others?  What form should the
compensation take and how far should it be extended?  And finally, how
much is one willing that all should suffer so that the desired
equality is achieved?  (In a social system, there is little difference
between "encouraging" a kind of behavior "exploiting" it for the
general good.  As economists are fond of saying, one gets more of the
kind of behavior that is rewarded, and less of the kind that is
taxed.)

Ms. Parcel does indeed escape the problem of determining whether
gender differences are innate or cultural.  But she trades it for a
series of general social problems, some of which have plagued
political philosophers for generations.

Russell

nadel@aerospace.aero.org (Miriam H. Nadel) (09/19/90)

In article <27088@usc.edu> gazit%oberon.usc.edu@usc.edu (Hillel) writes:
>Why the examples of non-aggressive societies are always based on *old* 
>societies
>that did not leave too many records behind?  Why nobody presents a clear
>example, where there is enough data to know how the society *really* worked?

Partly because previous destroyers deliberately destroyed the records,
partly because records may be less necessary in a society that doesn't
collect tribute or taxes, and partly because when I was a kid we were taught 
as though such societies never existed, so even those few things which we
*do* know for sure about them are enough to break the monopoly of the
idea that our way is the only way.

>>If a person says that success by brutal competition in business is the
>>"best" system solely because it can be, and has been, imposed by
>>force, then I reserve the right to use any force to fight against it.
>>Including AA, socialism, or anything else.  
>
>The idea behind Affirmative Action is to put men in a situation where
>they have to try *harder*, while women can take it more easy.

I was around in the sixties, when the idea was being discussed, and that's
not what they said.  You and I have both posted on this, and differ in
our views, but I was not aware that you knew people who said this
is their reason for promoting AA.  Or are you claiming to be able to
read others' minds?

Anyway, my use of it here is not to support it (which I do in some cases
and not in others, depending on implementation) but to point out that
we need to agree on a definition of "fair and equitable" or "desireable"
before we can decide what a fair or desireable world would would look like.  
In the absence of such consensus, each side will work for its own good, 
and each side will rightly point out that the other side is doing exactly 
that.  Saying it is OK for the system of modern business to unconsciously
select for male traits might be right or wrong, but it cannot be presumed 
to be a "natural" law in the sense of inevitability because there are other 
systems possible.

>>If survival of the
>>survivor is the ONLY criterion, and morality doesn't enter into it,
>>then I have the right to lie, cheat, steal, and anything else to
>>change the system, as I am at war with it.

>No, you just reinforce the system in a more ugly way.

Depends on whether or not critical mass is reached.  Was Lenin reinforcing
Monarchy?

Anyway, I wasn't recommending this course of action, but pointing out that the
mere existence of a system is not sufficient proof that it is good or
desireable.  As soon as other proofs are offered, they must be judged
somehow, and that's where the fun starts.


-- 
"Beware of prophets wearing rubber clothing"  - William Nealy

Miriam (bored with statistics) Nadel
nadel@aerospace.aero.org