[soc.feminism] REFRESH

davej@yang.earlham.edu (David A. Jeroslow) (10/19/90)

A female freind of mine told me something about lesbian relationships.
She is heterosexual.



"Gay male relationships are more likely to be based on a genuine love and 
sexual attraction, whereas gay female relationships are often based on a 
mutual anger toward men."



I am neutral to the above statement.
Any comments?

kaveh@ms.uky.EDU (Kaveh Baharestan) (10/23/90)

davej@yang.earlham.edu (David A. Jeroslow) writes:


>A female freind of mine told me something about lesbian relationships.
>She is heterosexual.

>"Gay male relationships are more likely to be based on a genuine love and
>sexual attraction, whereas gay female relationships are often based on a
>mutual anger toward men."

>I am neutral to the above statement.
>Any comments?

yup, I know about 20-30 lesbians, and not one of them has based there
relationships on anger towards men.  This is not to say that they do
not feel anger toward men, some of them do.  Most of them, however,
just don't give a damn about men, period.  This of course, leads
people who hold men as central in their own lives to confuse un-caring
with anger.

-kaveh.

maslak@unix.sri.com (Valerie Maslak) (10/24/90)

In article <3193@yang.earlham.edu> davej@yang.earlham.edu (David A. Jeroslow) writes:
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>A female freind of mine told me something about lesbian relationships.
>She is heterosexual.
>"Gay male relationships are more likely to be based on a genuine love and 
>sexual attraction, whereas gay female relationships are often based on a 
>mutual anger toward men."
>I am neutral to the above statement.
>Any comments?

Well, given that your friend is heterosexual, I'm not sure what her
basis for the statement is. In my experience, the sexual orientation
of the partners in a relationship is no sure indicator of the likely
basis of the relationship one way or the other. I know what seem to
be happy, healthy homosexual relationships based on love and I know
homosexual relationships based on neurosis. The sex of the people
involved is irrelevant. 

I don't agree with your friend's statement at all. Look, I can even
think of a couple of heterosexual relationships that seem to be
based on hatred of the opposite sex...

Valerie Maslak