[soc.feminism] _FEAR_ and feminism LONG, but worth it

smd@lsuc.on.ca (Sean Doran) (01/02/91)

In an article (Message-Id: <1990Dec29.204059.10264@uunet!unhd>),
rg@msel.unh.edu (Roger Gonzalez) wrote:

| I'd worry that the associating too closely with this movement would lead
| to connections with the really radical feminists, whether you agree
| with them fully or not.  You give them strength.

Good.  All power to them.  

Feminism, you see, is a terribly amorphous concept, but at its core is
one central philosophy: every woman and every man should be given
equal treatment in society, in the workplace, in the home, and under
the law.  This de facto equality is much more difficult to achieve
than the de jure quasi-non-discrimination that is found in many
countries.  The reason for this is that systematic and systemic
barriers exist to women.

Most people in North America have realized that it is inappropriate to
be overtly discriminatory on the basis of gender, and I would have to
search hard for a corporation in Canada or the U.S. which still has a
codified hiring or pay-scale policy which calls for discrimination
against women.  Unfortunately, other barriers exist, for instance, an
old boy's club type of company which seeks to hire people who share
common interests, such as golf or baseball or collecting sports cars
or other stereotypically male activities, or a company such as CN Rail
which, because there are so few women (ca. 4%) employed in certain
positions, such as mechanical engineers, do not provide separate
toilet or shower facilities for male and female staff.

In the second case, where women are given short shrift because they
are in a minority, women are made to feel uncomfortable, and the
company pays no attention to the needs of the female staff, perhaps
hoping they will vanish.  CN justifies their position on this matter
(and others) by reiterating that only 4% of the staff doing this type
of work is female, and since only a very few women apply and many do
not remain for more than two years (often quitting complaining about
the conditions they must work in), there is no great need to make
accomodations.

In the first sort of organization, the barriers are more systemic than
systematic.  Most people who hire individuals take into account not
just ability and experience, but also personality and extra-labour
activities.  This is true of almost everyone.  Unfortunately, when
making a subjective analysis of who should be promoted into a
managerial position, executives will choose someone they can easily
relate to socially, and often (in the case of middle-aged senior
management) this is a man.  Perhaps it is because of a golfing habit,
or perhaps it is some other "trait" or hobby that is the factor, but
it does present a barrier to a woman who does not golf vis a vis a man
who does.  This sort of subtle pro-male bias is a principal cause of
the "glass ceiling" through which women can see but not pass.

There are many many other forms of subtle bias, which favour men over
women when hiring or promoting workers.

There are other goals of feminism: the safeguarding of the dignity of
all women, be they workers or be they household engineers, and
ensuring that society respects whatever choice of lifestyle a woman
makes.  Unfortunately, while much has been done to promote the
interests of the woman working outside the home, viz.
government-supported non-profit daycare, pay equity legislation and
regulations, benefits for single mothers, and many other good steps
towards a non-gender-biased society, less has been done to promote the
interests and meet the needs of the woman who chooses to work in the
home.

Household engineers, "housewives", perform tedious, tiring, dirty
work, in looking after small children and the finances and state of
the domestic partnership.  They often perform valuable and useful
services, such as basic accountancy and bookkeeping, managing
supplies, scheduling appointments (for the doctor or dentist, for
example), managing social events, cooking and cleaning.  If outside
specialists were hired to do the work, it would cost several dozens of
thousands of dollars per annum, and even if an a generalist were to be
hired to do the same duty, it would run into many thousands each year.
Yet too often these women get no recognition; they are poked fun at,
stereotyped as soap-opera fanatics, lazy, or useless to society.  When
calculating GNP or GDP, most economists factor out the services
provided to a domestic partnership, especially since it is seen to be
done on a "pro bono" basis.  This, sadly, is terrible treatment for
anyone.  To be told that since you are not directly paid for your work
means that your work is worthless is awful.

Of course, more awful is the household engineer who is not only unpaid
for her or his work and consequently considered worthless, but who is
also not allowed any financial independence by his or her domestic
partner.  Too often, the breadwinner keeps control the money, not
allowing the work-at-home partner to spend any on, for example, a
night out with friends.  An arrangement like that is inequitable and
unfair, and is unacceptable to any feminist.

Many people choose to remain unaware of the scope of the problems
faced by all women in Western societies.  They grudgingly admit that
there is "a problem" of some sort, and that something ought to be
done.  They often support legislation which ensures that people are
paid the same for doing the same job, notwithstanding gender or
colour.  And quite often they state that things are not as bad now
than they were, say, 20 years ago.

They are right, but they do not recognize that most of the bias has
gone underground, has become less systematic than systemic, and harder
to trace, and harder still to recognize.  It is hard to recognize,
because good, "rational" people look to a posteriori arguments, and
say that loads of empirical evidence indicates that visible minority
groups like blacks find themselves having almost complete pay equity
(corrected by region and by age-group and marital status, among other
factors).  These statistics, a rational person might say, point out
that the process is working, and that _given time_, things will get
better.

This is the sort of argument that feminists face all the time.  People
do not want to see the problems in their society, and think that
people who point them out are merely exaggerating to get attention.
Like you, they feel that while agreeing that something _ought_ to be
done is progressive, one must be careful when associating with a group
which seeks to point them out in order to correct them.

"Radical" feminists are just feminists who point out the problems in
society more agressively than others, hoping that someone will listen
to them, in line with the aphorism: "the squeaking wheel gets the
oil".  Many such people are called radicals, or as you point out:

| I knew about the stereotypical "man-hating hairy-legged commie
| lesbo rad feminist" description, but I dismissed it along with all
| the other stereotypical tripe that we get force-fed every day.

These are labels, hurtful labels, incorrectly attached to women who
point out not only the effects of the gender-bias in Western society,
but also the causes.  This tends to offend those who recognize
themselves or their peers as people who potentially demonstrate subtle
bias against women.  People who have benefited or who might benefit
from the current system react with hostility to people who indicate
how they have benefitted and how in turn others have suffered.  Most
men who have social or political power tend to think of themselves as
well-meaning individuals who are not causing any harm to anyone, just
like everyone else.  Some of them, when told that they are
unconsciously doing harm, say "I didn't know that; I will try to do
better".  That is where vocal, or radical feminists succeed.  Other
such men, though, react defensively, saying anything from "Your facts
are wrong" to "What are you, some sort of man-hater?".  This is what
feminists must deal with.

Still, I support vocal feminists of all varieties.  I support them
because they seek to eliminate a serious disparity between the two
sexes.

| The main
| thought that ran through my mind as I read the articles posted by
| the two main contributors to the thread was "why are these women
| using the same pathetic techniques of stereotyping, slandering,
| categorizing, and propaganda that men have used against women all
| these years?" 

When dealing with emotional issues such as prejudice and bias, people
become defensive.  When this happens it is difficult to communicate
calmly, and the calm party often has extreme difficulty convincing the
nervous, defensive one.  In fact, communication grinds to a halt.  By
demonstrating that they are *angry* that they are oppressed and
_ignored_, they grab people's attention.  That is good, since drawing
attention to a problem is the first step to getting it solved.
Sometimes, people will react violently against new ideas, and will
lash out instinctively against the people who present them, calling
them names.  Rather than thinking about if and why they disagree with
the new idea, they reject the author herself or himself.  This is
quite common in history, sadly.  Perhaps angry, defensive people are
engaging in the "sins" that you describe, but is not unusual, and it
is not something which in any way should detract from the new ideas
and the arguments in their favour.  One should not refuse an idea
simply because it hasn't been presented in a nice, safe, pleasant,
friendly way.

It is certainly not that feminists are "unenlightened".  Feminists are
_aware_, and are upset because of the scale and scope of the
oppression women must deal with, and want to change it in the face of
social inertia and defensive attitudes of those who can make changes.
This will make anyone upset given time, and this is why we feminists
occasionally seem to be bitter, vengeful people.  We are not.

| Its as if these women don't merely want
| equality, as I had assumed, they want to kick men down to the same
| point of repression women have faced.

What you assumed was correct; no feminist wants to kick anyone down.
People who feel threatened by the goal of free and open competition
with qualified women who have always been handicapped often feel,
perhaps understandably terrified.  They talk of "revenge-minded
feminists", and make life miserable for their new female peers who are
competing for engineering or political jobs, and they want to preserve
the bias in favour of men, even less qualified men.
Self-preservation.

This too must be dealt with, but not by mollycoddling or backing down
to remove the illusions of the person interested in his career or spot
in University.  Fears such as this should only be dealt with by
exposing them, since they are unreasonable ones.  Not addressing a
problem because someone is irrationally afraid or abusive is
counter-productive, and the goals of equality and equity for 51% of
the population is more important than the goals of male students or
professionals.

| The media is to fault, because it will
| be the vocal ones way out on the limb that get the publicity.  Being
| noisy about something as dull and boring as "men and women should be
| equals, with appreciation (and not repression of) their differences."
| just doesn't sell.

If quiet, non-threatening feminists are unable to effect change and
noisy, politically active, vocal feminists are, then I think that if I
honestly support the principle of "men and women should be equals
&c.", then I should support people who say it louder than I do.  They
can get media attention, while I only get the attention of certain
politicians, and since we are trying to achieve the same resuts, and
are on the same side, I support them completely.

I do not disassociate myself from "rad-fems" at all.

-- 
Sean Doran <smd@lsuc.ON.CA>    Disgruntled anti-GST Young Liberal.
also seand@ziebmef.mef.org     Jeune Liberal qui se fache a cause de la TPS.
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