nelson@melodian.cs.uiuc.edu (Taed Nelson) (07/07/90)
This was told to me by both Sandy and Darryl Bem, both of whom are Psychology Professors at Cornell University. The Bems, being well-versed in the area of sex roles and psychology, had decided to raise their children androgynously. This included not only the typical male-toy/female-toy aspects, but they were also very careful not to impose any of their own learned sex role socialization upon their children. For example, a frequent phrase was "the only difference between a male and female is that a male has a penis and a female has a vagina." When the parents were asked whether a person that the child could see was male or female, they would reply (even if the parents could tell which it was), "I don't know, dear, they have pants on, so we can't see if they are male or female." One day, their son (then in Kindergarten) decided that he wanted to wear hair barrettes to school. Sandy and Darryl, of course, acquiesced and put barrettes in his hair. That night, they got a phone call from his teacher (who knew about the Bems' rearing plan), who related the following story: Upon arriving at school, another boy came up to their son and asked why he was wearing barrettes in his hair. Little Bem replied, "Because I felt like it." The other boy was visibly upset at this, but walked away. A little while later, the boy comes back and says, "Why are you wearing barrettes in your hair? Only _girls_ wear barrettes; you must be a girl." Bem, true to his upbringing, replies, "I am not a girl; I have a penis and testicles, girls have a vagina." The boy once again walks away. During recess, the boy comes back once again, and _insists_ that Bem is a girl because he is wearing barrettes. Once again, "The only difference between boys and girls is that boys have a penis and testicles and girls have a vagina." The little boy exclaims, "You _must_ be a girl; you're wearing barrettes." But Bem replies, "I'm a boy; I have a penis and testicles. Look -- I'll show you!" At this point, Bem pulls down his pants to prove that he has a penis and testicles... The boy replies, "Everybody has one of those, but only girls wear barrettes." -- Edited by Brad Templeton. MAIL your jokes (jokes ONLY) to funny@looking.ON.CA Attribute the joke's source if at all possible. A Daemon will auto-reply. Remember: Always give your jokes a descriptive "Subject:" line. Not "joke."