[soc.men] A question about hurting someone.

oconnor@sunray.UUCP (12/03/87)

msnyder@tut.cis.ohio-state.edu (Michael Y. Snyder) writes:
>slf@well.UUCP (Sharon Lynne Fisher) writes:
>>Regarding choosing between two people to have a relationship with:
>>Why choose?  Is there some reason you can't have a relationship with both?
>
>Sharon, I love you I love you I love you!

People who overuse the word "love" have nearly destroyed it as a word
with unique meaning. "love" /= "like" | "appreciate" | "grateful to"
or whatever. Mikey could use some English lessons ?

> Right now the only SO I have within hundreds of miles is doing the

Not a very significant "SO", it seems to me. Unless by "SO" you mean
"Sexual Orifice". Well, Mikey, that's not what most people mean by it.

>"I'm starting a new relationship so I have to stop having a
>relationship with you" number to me, and the only

"doing [a] number to me"? You cringing paranoid whiner! That person
isn't "doing a number" on you, just breaking up for what they think is
a good reason. But Noooo, you see it as a deliberate personal attack.
THIS is a personal attack :  you insecure little pea brain !

>other SO on this side of the Continental Divide has just done the same thing

So do you have SOs all over the country? Do all of them know about
each other? You poor boy, and two of them have dropped you, and 
you feel they're "doing [a] number" on you! Cringing paranoid wimp,
they all will if they see your posting. They all probably will
anyway once they get to know you. You really do mean "Sexual Orifice"
when you say "SO", don't you!?

>People imagine that because I'm non-monogamous, it won't hurt when this
>happens.  Just because I don't mind sharing a lover with
>another guy doesn't mean I won't mind being replaced by one.

Who cares what you mind? The other guy may REFUSE to share. The lover
may refuse to be shared. Don't you DARE try to impose your loose
morality on other people. We don't ALL want to be plague carriers,
or shallow sex-obsessed jerks.

Besides, you don't OWN your lovers, so you CAN'T share them. They
can share themselves if they want. 

>I think of my lovers as friends, and I treat them as such.

"Friend" is another good word jerks like you have destroyed.
Do you even know what YOU mean when YOU say it? Much less
what it used to mean when it had a real meaning?
>... I don't feel like I'm being treated like a friend.

Your probably being treated like what you are : a worn-out dildo.

>I've been really hurting, imagining that there's no one left who thinks
>like I do.  Thank you for being out there.

Your to shallow to know real hurt. "no one left..."?? No one ever DID
think like you do. Because you don't think, you just repeat what you
saw on "General Hospital". You don't know how to think, or really feel
either, to judge by you pathetic little posting. Get a life!

>Michael

"And he'll have fun fun fun 'till they come and take his napalm away..."

DISCLAIMER : I was in the mood to flame, and this was the best target
around. I don't really know that Micheal is the whining pathetic
immoral shallow nonentity this flame makes him out to be. He could
even be a decent person. Or even a decent AI program. ;-)
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