kathyf@tekecs.UUCP (Kathy Forester) (09/19/86)
This is an issue I am currently struggling with. When my divorce was final I chose to keep my ex's name, not that I personally had attachments to it, but there was my daughter. I felt guilty enough having put her through the divorce routine. I didn't want her to have to explain that the person signing as parent was really her mom, we just had different names. A few years later I remarry and still chose to keep the old name for the same reason. But then complications arose, a new baby (light of my life that she is) put me back into the same situation. I didn't want to give her a hyphinated name, especially one that would tie her to my ex. The obvious solution (it was going to be so easy :-)) was for me to use both names. The only thing is now I don't feel like I have a name at all. I have made compromises to satisfy and uncomplicate others lives. I suppose that some day I will come to grips with all of that. Not taking a firm stand on what I want to be called only complicates the matter more. Anyway, it has led to a minor identity crisis that I am sure I will eventually work through with relative ease. But using hind sight I am not sure I would make the same decision (although I don't know what decision I would make). Kathy(I'll answer to anything but Herb)Forester-Lake Still trying to come up with a .signature file I can relate to.