susan@madvax.UUCP (09/24/86)
> I know it's a lot to ask, but I wish that mothers of "unwanted" children > could somehow find the strength to carry the child to term and give it up > for adoption. It's a difficult thing to do, but it would be a much more > satisfying thing to look back on than a "might have been". > -- > Stuart D. Gathman <..!seismo!{vrdxhq|dgis}!BMS-AT!stuart> Yes, it is a lot to ask - and my first impulse is to quibble with both the term 'children' in this context. But not this time. If you want a woman to continue the pregnancy to term, you might try offering her a place to live, help with expenses, help finding a good job (or the skills to get one), help finding and paying for daycare, even help in terms of keeping the child yourself until she can handle it. Don't stop the help at birth, and don't load it with the demand that she must give up the kid. And *you* do it, don't expect some anonymous charity that you gave twenty dollars to to do it for you. That, by the way, is a lot to ask of you. I've been in that postion, and I am terrified by the thought of raising another baby on my salary and in my tiny house. I honestly couldn't make that offer to someone I didn't love very very much. But everyone in my family is going to have a choice - a real one. The public options just won't do. Susan Finkelman {zehntel,amd,fortune,resonex,rtech}!varian!susan