dave@cmu-cs-cad.ARPA (Bharat Dave) (06/27/85)
... > Does that mean that if someone wanted to get married, his/her parents saying > no would mean he/she won't? That seems a little odd to me. Yes and no... I think it boils down to what may be called: emotional dependence- on family, relatives, friends, whatever. It provides a kind of role-model and something to cling to. In itself it is not a bad thing, but unarticulated allegiance to it (like inheriting without understanding what it entails) can cause a lot of pain, specially when it does not stand up to your expectations. Most people weave this emotional dependence into their lives- by choice or without ever noticing; it may work very well for them. Some others notice it, but can't quite decide if it is worth anything- they end up either accepting it or bottling up with a trace of bitterness. Still some others strike a balance between what is its worth and how much they are willing to pay for it- either totally opting out of it or accepting it partially. And I think, everyone of those will have their own versions of being happy ! None of them are wrong, just different ! So there is no one answer. In the end, it all depends on what attitude he/she happens to possess. Personally, I would go ahead and get married...To each his/her own. -Bharat Dave dave@cmu-cs-cad.arpa