[net.abortion] Matt's question on cause

regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard) (04/11/85)

>What is the rest of people's opinion on the correlation between child abuse
>and abortion in this country?  Does anyone besides me believe that it is
>possible that abortion has led to a more casual, i.e. lax respect for life?
>Is it possible that the ME mentality of the '70s is part of this problem?
>Matt

I don't think that there is a correlation between child abuse and abortion
for many of the same reasons cited (by Mikki?) earlier -- to wit, the
definitions of "child abuse" have been changing, the statistics available
before 1979 were poor guesswork -- and also because I don't think that
people who have children necessarily link their behaviour toward their
children to the availability of a medical procedure they did not choose
to take.  I certainly don't punish or not punish my daughter on the basis
of whether or not abortion is available to others.

I do think however that there is a rise in child abuse (smaller than that
reported).  The reasons I think it is rising is mostly because of the
economic conditions we have lived through in the past 12-20 years.  It is
concluded that financial trouble is one of the primary reasons marriages
fall apart (of course, definition of financial trouble has a wide
latitude), and I would not be surprised if it were concluded that financial
trouble was a primary cause of child abuse.  The past 12 years have seen
rough economic times for many Americans, when families have had to tighten
their belts ("But mom, I gotta have new Adidas, everybody has purple ones")
and some two parent families have sent both parents into the workplace--not
because they WANTED to, but because they HAD to--("But Dad, I can't be seen
riding a USED 10-speed!"), and the resulting stress has made for short
fuses. I also think that many people have no idea how to raise a child
once they've got one. The frustration of trying to "control" what can only
really be "guided" (and then with varying levels of success) must be
very great on the management-oriented, deterministic parent.

I do feel that the 'me' generation has contributed to a more casual view of
the value of life -- everybody elses life but the 'me'.  But I don't think
that abortion does.  It seems to me that the recent furor has made thinking
people carefully consider their stance, which, if anything, would raise
their respect for life.  When you have to consider these hard questions,
you face the many ambiguities and differing opinions because of the heavy
press coverage if nothing else.  I think that lots of people who never had
to deal with the issue before have taken a look at their definition of
"life" "quality of life" "ownership" (of the body), etc. perhaps more
seriously than in the past.

Abortion is like gun-control, welfare, contribution to charity, starving
people in Africa, gassing deaths in India: how often in our everyday,
protected worlds do we consider the real impact of these things until they
touch us through the newspapers?  Until we really begin discussion issues
with people whose opinions we respect?  Until we really have to face the
issue for ourselves through some twist of fate/bad luck/lousy planning/
mistakes/poor timing?  It isn't often in America that we are asked to
act upon what we believe.