mlh@abnjh.UUCP (M. L. Holt) (05/03/84)
Sorry - realized I failed to answer your question: If your husband is gone from 0730 to whenever, the problem is that you're doing too much. He needs a terminal at home or to revise his priorities -- I've always put my family first, and have paid for it in my career (still a peasant, nott a supervisor: they could tell I don't give them my all) I don't believe you can really give two hard jobs your all. best, Mike Holt abnjh!mlh
preece@uicsl.UUCP (05/19/84)
#R:abnjh:-57400:uicsl:22800015:000:1065 uicsl!preece May 5 23:25:00 1984 Right now the way I handle working long hours and coming home to the kids is badly. On the other hand, I can't agree that family can be the number one priority all the time, all your life. At the moment I need to be doing what I'm doing, long hours and all, to prove something about myself to myself. The kids have gotten a lot of me in the past and will again in the future, I'm sure, but for some ill-defined period that happens to include now, they're getting less. The real problem is that context switching has become a lot more difficult. I see the kids when they're tired at the end of the day and I'm tired at the end of the day and I'm only five minutes from being engulfed in different problems entirely. I'm much more likely to be harsh and impatient than when I came home earlier and was less tested by my work. I guess the fact that my wife wants, right now, to stay home with the kids is giving me a buffer from having to adjust my priorities. When she goes back to work life will be more complicated. scott preece ihnp4!uiucdcs!ccvaxa!preece