sdi@loral.UUCP (08/29/84)
> 1. Did you "always" want children, or did something convince you at > some time that it would be nice (or whatever modifier you prefer here) > to become a parent? > 2. If something DID convince you, what was it? I will assume that I have concrete experience since I now have a 4 month old boy. My wife and I decided, after 7 years of fun and exciting married life, that we wanted to have some children. We both were in agreement to have children and were now totally prepared for the change in our lives that a child would cause. I believe that you have to have a sound marriage to begin with and from there you would then consider a family and children. On the point of "being convinced", there is always family pressure to get those grandchildren rolling, or keep the family name forwarded, etc etc. We took that pressure with a grain of salt and decided in a self-determined fashion to go ahead with it. I highly recommend it as it has changed my life in many more postive ways than negative. Each additional time my wife and I talk about having one or two more kids, the number increases as we experience more of the joy of the one we have. **** On the note of "people who don't want to have kids, shouldn't", I agree completely. If you don't want to then don't. That, I agree with, but I certainly don't agree with people who state that it isn't important to have children or that there is over-population. There is plenty of room on this planet and if no one furthers the human race by making more people then there will be no future race. I won't get too flamy there so ...... ***** -- ******* I have given up my search for truth and am now looking for a good fantasy. *******