peg@linus.UUCP (Margaret E. Craft) (12/31/84)
My second child is due any day now, so this may be too late to get me any real help, but it is also to register a gripe: I looked at many bookstores for a book for my 2 year old daughter to help prepare her for the arrival of baby #2. ALL of the books I found were about a BOY getting a baby SISTER!! Does that strike anyone else as odd? And I'm talking about 8 or 10 books! Now, maybe it isn't important, but my 2 year old is pretty literal, and a book about becoming a brother when she KNOWS she's going to become a sister, just won't do. ESPECIALLY when the brother is getting this helpless little SISTER - "her" role-word! I settled on a Sesame Street book about Herry Monster, since I can read it "wrong" and get by with that (it is hard to tell the sex of those monsters!). If I had had time (the lament of all working mothers!) I wouldn've written one myself!! Another issue I have yet to decide: should a 2 year old come to visit mom in the hospital? I asked about 8 people how their 2 year old reacted when they DID visit, and 3 of them had horror stories. Intestingly, all three were working mothers! I'd have guessed that kids of working Moms would handle it better, but then all had major problems "leaving Mom behind". Of the other 5, only 2 were positive - the other 3 were "didn't seem to matter one way or the other". Anyone else want to add to the data pool? Maybe I'll be late enuf to use the advice!! peggy craft
jay@unm-la.UUCP (01/02/85)
> Another issue I have yet to decide: should a 2 year old come to > visit mom in the hospital? Yes. Starting in the delivery room. -- Jay Plett {{ucbvax,gatech}!unmvax, lanl}!unm-la!jay
karl@osu-eddie.UUCP (Karl Kleinpaste) (01/03/85)
---------- > > Another issue I have yet to decide: should a 2 year old come to > > visit mom in the hospital? > > Yes. Starting in the delivery room. ---------- This seems to me to be an astoundingly bad idea. Perhaps it works out OK sometimes, but I keep thinking about a little 2- or 3-year-old watching his mother going through major pain, and then discovering that it was all caused by his new brother or sister. It seems to me that this sort of thing would cause a lot of emotional stress to the child. Think of the resentment it might cause against the new sibling, because "you hurt Mommy!" -- From the badly beaten keyboards of him who speaks +-best address in textured Technicolor *TyPe* f-O-n-T-s... | | Karl Kleinpaste @ Bell Labs, Columbus 614/860-5107 +---> cbrma!kk @ Ohio State University 614/422-0915 osu-eddie!karl
ag5@pucc-k (Henry Mensch) (01/03/85)
<<>> >>I looked at many bookstores for a book for my 2 year old daughter >>to help prepare her for the arrival of baby #2. ALL of the books >>I found were about a BOY getting a baby SISTER!! Does that strike >>anyone else as odd? And I'm talking about 8 or 10 books! Dr. Sol Gordon and his wife have several books on the subject. Unfortunately the titles currently escape me, but they are published by Ed-U-Press in Fayetteville, NY. You can get more information from Dr. Gordon's office (he's a professor at Syracuse University; Syracuse, NY) at (315) 423-1870 <the main university switchboard>. They also have a very good book for parents: "How to Raise Your Child Conservatively in a Sexually-Permissive World." Although I'm not about to have any children anytime soon, this book did seem to be very worthwhile. -- ------------------------------------------------------------------- Henry C. Mensch | User Confuser | Purdue University User Services {ihnp4|decvax|ucbvax|purdue|uiucdcs|cbosgd|harpo}!pur-ee!pucc-i!ag5 ------------------------------------------------------------------- "If you can't be good, be careful. If you can't be careful, give me a call..."