benson@dcdwest.UUCP (Peter Benson) (01/31/85)
I have read some of the discipline/spanking articles of late and found
them interesting, but they are remote from my concerns. My daughters
are now 14 and 17 and I haven't spanked them in a very long time. My
concern is paying for their college educations.
My folks paid for a portion of my education. I got scholarships, took
out loans, worked part-time jobs and summers. When I got married, as a
sophomore, they stopped paying and I was financially independent and
have been ever since. Oh, I was poor a lot of the time, but I paid my
own way.
Now my eldest is going to go to Berkeley. I support this, BUT
* while I am paying, I will retain the right to have
some significant and effective input about what she
does (NOT control, input).
* I expect her to make serious and persistent efforts
to finance as much of this as she can.
Many of the net readers are students in college. Perhaps, they have
some opinions about this.
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(619)578-3080 | 10060 Carroll Canyon Road
decvax!ittvax!dcdwest!benson | San Diego, CA 92131
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Peter Benson | ITT Defense Communications Division
(619)578-3080 | 10060 Carroll Canyon Road
decvax!ittvax!dcdwest!benson | San Diego, CA 92131
ucbvax!sdcsvax!dcdwest!benson | mcburnet@topaz.ARPA (Mcburnet) (02/04/85)
When I was an undergraduate (70-74) my father paid 50% and left the rest up
to me. As it turned out, that meant that I had to supply funds for the 2nd
half of my junior year and all of my senior year. I feel that this made me
value my education all the more, and also gave me a better handle on getting
loans/financial aid.
The people who finance their own education are more motivated to make the
best use of it.
I am now in grad school (financed by my wife.. I put her through school) and
appreciate not having to work. But the 1st experience has followed me and
set my study habits/motivations.
Make Them Work For It... They'll Thank You For It
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Roe McBurnett {ut-sally,astrovax}!topaz!mcburnet or
Hill 521 x4273 \-> !ru-green!mcburnettknight@nmtvax.UUCP (02/09/85)
I was forced to pay for my schooling after the first 1.5 years. My grades improved dramatically, and my sense of responsibility was correspondingly boosted. I won't boot my son out of the nest, but I will encourage him (if he is indeed interested in further education) to seek self-sufficiency. I think he'll thank me for it in time. I know I'm grateful for the exper- ience. Bob
smkindersley@water.UUCP (sumo kindersley) (02/12/85)
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this deal was always understood in my family: the first degree is on
Dad (tuition/living/books) but anything after that must be personally
financed. he could certainly afford to pay for my master's but that's
not the point. i can't say i feel more responsible but it *is* a good
feeling to be self-supporting. also, i felt that my bachelors was his
but that this one is for *me*. thank goodness i can earn enough as a
grad student to support myself! i think my parents thought that they
owed us a university education and i am sure grateful!
sumo kindersley
u of waterlooiles@hplabs.UUCP (02/15/85)
I am a half-time Hewlett-Packard employee and full time UC Berkeley student. What worked in my case was: -As soon as I left the house, I was technically independent. Although my parents still "loaned" me money whenever I needed it, it, it was understood that any educational loans would be forgotten. -After 2 years, the college considers me independent and does not include my parents' (rather signifigant) resources in my financial aid evaluation. The college will make up any money I cannot earn myself. What I have found, however, is that students who work during the school year and then full time during the summer make an average of about 17K/year. This is more than enough for me to still alive for a year, and in fact, if I were a decent money manager, would yield a nice surplus. As it is, I enjoy my lifestyle a lot, all the more so because I earn it. Daniel Lieman