dimare@ucla-cs.UUCP (03/30/85)
We never hit our daugther (4 years). The reason is very simple: I'm way too strong for her, and I'm so clumsy that I can't control my own strenght. My wife is just too smart. The last thing I want is my daughter in the hospital because of my wrath. Besides, we have found a better method: whenever she misbehaves, we take away one of her dolls. And we hide it. As she loves her dolls very much, she has learned that this is capital punishment. But we don't over do it, as otherwise she would get use to it. We talk a lot to her and whenever we punish her, we also explain the reasons for the punishment. This forces us to clearly delimit the amount of the punishment, and at the same time we teach her why her behaviour was wrong. It also helps to take the hit out of our heads. Of course, we assume kids can understand. And they do. Adolfo ///
jayt@ssc-vax.UUCP (Jay T McCanta) (04/04/85)
> > Besides, we have found a better method: whenever she misbehaves, > we take away one of her dolls. And we hide it. > When I was little, my mother used to make me sit on a chair in the middle of the room and DO NOTHING for <x> amount of time. For a small boy, that was punishment enough. When my brother (11 mths apart) would fight, they would have to kiss. That cut down on the fighting considerably. -- ---------------------------------------------------------------------- I don't need a disclaimer, because no one is dumb enough to claim me. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Jay T. McCanta Boeing Aerospace Kent, Wa. {uw-beaver|adiron|boeing|cesonix|argus|purdue}!ssc-vax!jayt
ark@alice.UUCP (Andrew Koenig) (04/04/85)
> > Besides, we have found a better method: whenever she misbehaves, > we take away one of her dolls. And we hide it. > Now, for the rest of her life, she will never feel happy about owning anything because she will be afraid it will suddenly vanish in punishment for some real or imagined transgression.