[net.kids] My first baby--child expenses

slb@drutx.UUCP (Sue Brezden) (08/05/85)

>OTHER PARENTS, CORRECT ME IF I'M WRONG:  I have always worried about how
>much it costs to raise a child.  It always seems that it's not as bad as
>I feared.  Even though our two older children are in preschool, most of
>the cost is for us big people. 

As the mother of an 18 and a 12 year old, I can tell you that cost
of a child increases exponentially.

Clothes are more expensive for older children--and mine are now
wearing adult clothes.  They start eating like adults--this happens
gradually, but is complete by about age 10.  My 12 year old eats more
than any other member of the family.  The 18 year old, lucklily, is
always out with her boyfriend, or on a diet.  They go to school, which
adds other expenses.  They start to expect to have clothes, toys,
and so on "just like other kids".  You don't give in to all of that,
of course--but you have to do some in order to give them some respect
among their peers.  They start to want to do outside activities--camps,
band, and so on.  These cost money.  They are worth it in terms of
enriching experience for the child, but they are expensive.  They start 
either getting an allowance or doing chores for money, to give them 
experience in handling money.

Then you are hit with the ultimate--which I will get this next year--
college.

My advice for the original poster:  I have been a single parent.  Get
some training NOW.  You will become more and more strapped for funds
as the little one gets older.  So now, when s/he is young and inexpensive,
is the time to go back to school, get additional training in your field,
and so on.  Get prepared for the expense.   You have about 6 years before
the real increase  starts--so try to get established in your carreer
before then.

And good luck.  If you want any advice on being a single parent, send
me mail.  I was unsuccessful in reaching through the header address
on the article.



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jrb@wdl1.UUCP (08/23/85)

College is not such a drain on the parents if the child works their way
through school.  I stopped getting an allowance ($.95) at age 14.  After
that I had to make my own spending money (I did AV work at my highschool).
My parents contributed nothing to my college expenses except for those
entailed by my living at home.  I paid for fees, books, transportation, and
medical insurance myself (no car).
	
				John R Blaker
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