[net.kids] 2 year old biting habits

barb@pyuxa.UUCP (B E Nemeth) (10/03/85)

We're having some problems getting our
2 year old daughter to stop biting.
It started with her just biting Mommy,
(me).  Once in a while she'll nibble on
Daddy, Grandma, Auntie, Uncle and she
once bit her 8 year old cousin.
But basically she loves biting Mommy.
I got a real thrill last week when she
went to kiss me, and bit my lips. Ouch!
When I found out she bit Uncle and cousin
I realized I had to get more serious.
So I have tried all of the following:

I bit her back - not hard to hurt but
it left a slight impression.

I put some vinegar on her tongue.  She
loved it.

We have a "naughty" chair she sits in
and has been put into after biting Mom.
Didn't result in not biting.

Her favorite activity is going to
"Chuck E. Cheese's" a kiddie land pizza place,
so I said to her "remember if you bite, no
Chuck E. Cheese."

The above seemed to work better than anything
else but the biting behaviour is still there.

Actually I hate threatening.  I originally
tried just reasoning with her; your biting
hurts Mommy, you don't want to hurt Mommy
do you. (She smiles and says yes).

Believe me, she really is a sweet one except
with this biting.  Imagine washing dishes
and having someone take a bit out of your
thigh while you are wearing shorts!  Loud
screams result and it is not fun!
So HELP please.
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Barb Nemeth
201-981-7067 work
pyuxa!barb

rggoebel@water.UUCP (Randy Goebel LPAIG) (11/02/85)

When I was two, I had the biting habit.  My parents tried (so I'm told) all of
the techniques you've reported, but the cure was a result of an untimely
chomp on my father's toe.  You see, my father is an extremely gentle soul who
rarely even got angry...early one morning I was crawling around the kitchen
floor when he awoke and while he was standing at the sink drinking a glass of
water I took a hefty bit of one of his big toes.  He was so surprised that
without hesitating he picked me up and gave me the only wallop I ever remember
him delivering.  Apparently I never bit again.

My daughter's biting was intially a defense mechanism--when she first began to
walk (at nine months) her older brother (18 months her senior) had just learned
about football and tackling.  Biting was the only way to keep him from piling
on.  It seems that his screams of pain got her a whole bunch of immediate
attention, and so she kept doing it to everyone.  She was severe though, and
grew out of it in about 2 months.

Randy Goebel, father of Jodi and Kari