ptc@ptsfc.UUCP (Pat Cook) (11/26/85)
I have some friends that would very much like to adopt an infant. If you know of anyone who has (or will have) an infant they wish to release for adoption, please contact any of the following: 1) Pat Cook via the net 2) The folks trying to adopt: Steve and Naomi Lesberg 13648 Jackrabbit Road Poway, CA 92064 Phone: 619-451-3451 - collect calls accepted 3) Their adoption attorney and adoption counselor: Atty.: Marc Gradstein Counselor: Bonnie Gradstein 2340 Irving St. Suite 105 San Francisco, CA 94122 Office Phone: 415-665-8995 - collect calls accepted Home Phone: 415-585-9253 - collect calls accepted The counselor is available to speak to anyone concerned about giving their infant up for adoption, and the adoptive parents wish to be very open with the natural parent(s) in terms of information. Please tell your friends about this wonderful opportunity to help give a great home to a little person. Sorry if this is in the wrong group, but you never know who will know someone. Thanks in advance for your help! Pat Cook
ajs@hpfcla.UUCP (12/06/85)
> Generally its a very bad idea for the true parents to know the adopted > parents. I know of two couples that have made the mistake, my aunt and > uncle, and a couple in my church. I must counter this. Don't you think two examples are too few to generalize from? I know from my wife's experiences and the birthparent organizations she belongs to that it's also a very bad idea for adopting and birth parents NOT to know each other. Adopting parents at best lose valuable information; at worst they are paranoid about the birth parents showing up some day and causing trouble. Meanwhile, birthparents often suffer terrible grief and sense of loss, which grows as time passes. Open adoptions need not result in chaos if handled right. They certainly have the potential for greater resulting peace, happiness, and security. Also, I must take issue with your choice of terms. Birth parents are no more the "true" parents of a child (once the adopting parents have legal custody and are raising it) than anti-abortionists are necessarily "pro-life" or than pro-choicers are necessarily "anti-life". Alan "pro-choice, pro-life, pro-open-adoption" Silverstein
stim@fluke.UUCP (Randy Stimpson) (12/06/85)
>I have some friends that would very much like to adopt an infant. If you know >of anyone who has (or will have) an infant they wish to release for adoption, >please contact any of the following: > > 1) Pat Cook via the net > 2) The folks trying to adopt: > Steve and Naomi Lesberg > 13648 Jackrabbit Road > Poway, CA 92064 > Phone: 619-451-3451 - collect calls accepted > 3) Their adoption attorney and adoption counselor: > Atty.: Marc Gradstein > Counselor: Bonnie Gradstein > 2340 Irving St. Suite 105 > San Francisco, CA 94122 > Office Phone: 415-665-8995 - collect calls accepted > Home Phone: 415-585-9253 - collect calls accepted > >The counselor is available to speak to anyone concerned about giving their >infant up for adoption, and the adoptive parents wish to be very open with >the natural parent(s) in terms of information. > >Please tell your friends about this wonderful opportunity to help give a great >home to a little person. Sorry if this is in the wrong group, but you never >know who will know someone. Generally its a very bad idea for the true parents to know the adopted parents. I know of two couples that have made the mistake, my aunt and uncle, and a couple in my church. If both cases there were long battles over custody. In both cases the adoptive parents won, but it was a very heart wrenching experience for all parties invovled.
susan@madvax.UUCP (Susan Finkelman) (12/10/85)
> > > Generally its a very bad idea for the true parents to know the adopted > parents. I know of two couples that have made the mistake, my aunt and > uncle, and a couple in my church. > > > If both cases there were long battles over custody. In both cases the > adoptive parents won, but it was a very heart wrenching experience for > all parties invovled. Yeah, but in the only family I know where everyone knew everyone, it worked out very well. The child is now in her mid-20s and NOT searching for mythical parents. And I saw many, many cases of children raised informally but totally by relatives without any legal hassles for anyone. Like everything, it just depends on the folks. Susan Finkelman {zehntel,amd,fortune,resonex,rtech}!varian!susan