[net.kids] Postive reinforcement vs. punishment

jimmc@sci.UUCP (Jim McBeath) (01/06/86)

Punishment *does* work to change behavior, it's just that it usually
does not accomplish quite the desired result.  Positive reinforcement
directs behavior towards a particular pattern, whereas punishment
directs behavior away from a particular pattern.  It is extremely
difficult to control ALL of the factors in a behavior pattern.
If a child is punished for something, he will look for ANY change
of the behavior which will remove it from that pattern.  Not telling
mommy and daddy, or not doing things when mommy or daddy are around,
is one possible change which typically accomplishes this.  If positive
reinforcement is being used, it is typically possible to have sufficient
control over the situation to guarantee that the only way for the child
to receive the reward is to perform the desired behavior, since the parent
only rewards the child when he sees that behavior.  Note that punishment
will work as desired if there is sufficient control of the situation,
as in the case of giving the animal a shock when it is in a box.
Real life is typically a bit more complex than this.  Punishing a child
for running into the street might make him stop running into the street,
or it might make him stop running into the street only when mommy and
daddy are around.  Many people feel that the chance that the child will
choose the first avoidance path makes it worthwhile in this particular
situation.

One of the hardest things for many people to do is to reward people 
(including kids) for things they "should" be doing anyway, or for not
doing things they shouldn't be doing!  This may sound funny, but rewarding
your child for NOT running into the street will probably be more effective
than punishing him for doing so.

Note that you as a parent are subject to behavior modification as well.
When your child acts the way you want, you are rewarded for your efforts,
and are more likely to use that approach again, whether the approach
you used was punishment or reinforcement.  When you are intermittently
rewarded by your childs intermittent good behavior, the effect can be
even stronger.  There is a positive feedback cycle between your behaivor
(i.e. how you treat your child) and his behavior.

For a good layman's discussion of the principals of positive reinforcement
and behavior modification, and how to use them in real life, I heartily
(and admittedly with some bias) recommend a book called "Little Changes
Mean a Lot", by Marcia McBeath, child psychologist, educator, and my mother.