pso@utastro.UUCP (P Samuel Odoms) (04/26/84)
I guess that in a way, my marriage is a friendship marriage. After we met
my {partner,lover,spouse,whatever-word-you-like-best} has become my closest
friend and confidant. We do not have sex with anywhere near the frequency
that the we had the first two years. We feel very comfortable (Oh, how the
sixties/early seventies hated that idea) with each other. It is my opinion
that in the best marriages sex becomes secondary and friendship becomes
primary. Those couples who have sex as primary probably do not have much
else in common.
Well, enough for now. Maybe I'll expound more later.
Sam
PS - To all of you out there who have sent me mail and have not gotten
replies: the answer(s) are 1) you don't deserve an answer (I got one nasty
one line note), 2) our VAX has this annoying habit of thinking that it
is actually a yo-yo (up and down, up and down, ...), 3) I have a LOT
of problems sending mail out of this place - simple little automatic
replies in the mail system frequently generate erroneous addresses or
something. Out disk systems are so full all the time (98 - 99%) that
once I read a letter I've got to delete it. The mail address is usually
caught a day or two latter down the line and then .... Oh, well.dyer@wivax.UUCP (Stephen Dyer) (04/28/84)
My experience echoes Sam's. My partner and I have been together for five years, and we are the best of friends. Sex is no longer quite as central to the relationship as it once was. I don't think this differs at all from what happens in a heterosexual relationship over time. On the other hand, I don't know what to say about a relationship set up at the outset as a sexless "friendship marriage." Good luck to those who choose it, but it sounds like a rather severe separation of sex vs. love. -- /Steve Dyer decvax!bbncca!sdyer sdyer@bbncca