[net.motss] bisexuality considered deviant

lkk@mit-eddie.UUCP (Larry Kolodney) (05/28/84)

I'm told by a number of gay friends that bisexuality is frowned upon by
both Straights and Gays.

Is this true?

If so I find it really ironic that a group that is so ostracized by
society for its "deviant" lifestyle can then turn around and label
another lifestyle to be so.

Comments?

(Don't flame at me, this is a truly Naive question (a possible first for
netnews)).
-- 
Larry Kolodney
(The Devil's Advocate)

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dyer@wivax.UUCP (Stephen Dyer) (05/30/84)

	>I'm told by a number of gay friends that bisexuality is frowned upon by
	>both Straights and Gays.  Is this true?

I think it depends on whom you talk to.  I have heard of women getting heat
from their lesbian friends when they profess attraction to men as well.
But I don't know of any women personally like that, so chalk it up to popular
mythology.  Among men, I've never perceived any such feeling.  Of course,
there will always be the separatist fringes who don't want to have anything
to do with the opposite sex, but they certainly don't speak for any group
but their own.

I will admit that having a bisexual mate can induce a kind of insecurity
in some susceptible people, be they straight or gay.  People are always looking
for labels, and the lack of a fixed "reference point" can be a problem
if the other partner has trouble with this.  But this reflects only on
the couple.

	>If so I find it really ironic that a group that is so ostracized by
	>society for its "deviant" lifestyle can then turn around and label
	>another lifestyle to be so.

Why would you insist on consistency for gay people when no one else
measures up either? :-?)
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/Steve Dyer
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