gmm@bunker.UUCP (Gregory M. Mandas) (09/14/84)
[] Folks, I didn't respond to the survey on what people look for in SOs. But since my choice was not there I will post it after the fact. In fact it was after the fact (of getting married after the third try.) that I came to this conclusion. I feel is it most important, behind love, affection, mutual desire, etc., that you can disagree with your SO. Anyone can jump into the sack because they are in "love" and/or "love" to play tennis together. It takes true love and understanding to be open and willing enough to disagree/argue/fight with someone and carry none of the infectious resentments after the resolution. I don't care how you resolve arguements, just as long as they are over when the discussions are over. You would be surprised at the number of people (read: my divorced friends) who were the perfect couple and one good disagreement ended up in divorce. It seems that they were not open enough to confront disagreements and when they did the resentments (built up before and dwelt on afterwards) were to deep to resolve. Sometimes it is best to agree to disagree; At least some agreement has taken place. It sounds trite, but as when working with computers, the simplest solution is often the best. Greg Mandas ittvax!bunker!gmm (thought I would try it out on you before my daughter is old enough to need this type of advice. Before anyone out there flames me for not expecting the youth of America to understand such concepts, she is only two months old :-), humor AR! AR! NANOO NANOO )