ag5@pucc-k (Henry Mensch) (01/03/85)
<<>> > I went to a couple of holiday parties which re-inforced my depression since >almost all attendees were with lovers. I went to a party at my best gay friends >home last Saturday. We had been out of touch for 2 years since he hated my >(now) ex. He had changed a lot in 2 years and has become a screaming bar queen. >His party resembled a re-make of the movie Boys in the Band more than a holiday >celibration; I only stayed an hour. I know the feeling of being without a lover at these parties; I felt the same way ... I still don't have a lover, but I make the best of it anyway. As for your friend who hated your (ex-)lover, he mustn't have been much of a friend if he wouldn't see you because of your lover... > After leaving Mom's I visited some straight friends and their families who >I had grown away from in past years. It was good to see these people after >such a long time. So it wasn't so bad, was it? > New Year's Eve bothers me much more than Christmas and I don't have any >plans. My Best *gay* friend, mentioned earlier and I were supposed to go into >Boston for First Night (Boston's outdoor Arctic Mardi Gras) but he has other >pland with his new, dizzy bar queen friends. I suppose I'll stay home and >turn in early. One thing that this holiday has taught me is not to put so much >emphasis on the holiday season. Again, he mustn't have been such a great friend if his plans changed so radically... I have greatly missed the companionship of many gay friends who are home for the holidays (as you can tell, I'm still in West Lose-a-lot). I did manage to have a good time with those friends who were still in town: I spent Christmas eve with a lesbian couple who are friends of mine; we drank a bottle of Bailey's and had a lot of fun together. For New Year's I went to a New Year's party thrown by a member of Dignity/Lafayette (this group isn't like you'd expect -- the president of this supposedly-Roman-Catholic group is an atheist ...). We all had a wonderful time, and some of us spent the night... Oh yeah ... I didn't mention Christmas day and New Year's Day -- I stayed at home and did some of the things that I never have time to do, like write to good friends and write some of the novel that I've been working on for some time... New Year's day was necessarily spent sleeping (we didn't go to sleep until 5AM, and we were up at 9:30AM for a breakfast which we sponsored after mass). I suppose what I'm trying to say is that you've set yourself up for misery... That's what it sounds like, anyway... -- ------------------------------------------------------------------- Henry C. Mensch | User Confuser | Purdue University User Services {ihnp4|decvax|ucbvax|purdue|uiucdcs|cbosgd|harpo}!pur-ee!pucc-i!ag5 ------------------------------------------------------------------- "If you can't be good, be careful. If you can't be careful, give me a call..."