kgdykes@watbun.UUCP (03/26/85)
> From: dxa@bentley.UUCP (DR Anolick) > Date: 25 Mar 85 22:05:27 GMT > > I am hoping that the net can help me with a current problem. The problem > concerns a friend of mine (John) who may be struggling to come to terms > with his being a homosexual. In order to explain the situation, I'd like > to give you some background. > > John and I met in the Spring of 1982, when I was a junior in an > ... etc As Ann Landers would say: Mind Yer Own Bizniz But seriously, I would not bring up the topic directly. However, make it clear to John that you are a good friend who is willing to lend a sympathetic ear to anything he may want to discuss. Also, avoid showing any Homophobic attitudes/behaviour (thats a biggy! wide open for interpretation) Do you have any problem that you can talk/ask him about? He may feel more confident in you if you show that you trusted him in some way. He has obviously been struggling with whatever problem for a long time now, so DONT RUSH IT -- instead work on developing a closer, more trusting friendship, let him make the first move and be receptive to it. - Ken Dykes Software Development Group, U. of Waterloo Waterloo, Ontario, Canada. N2L 3G1 {clyde,utzoo}!watnot!watmath!water!watbun!kgdykes