vip@philabs.UUCP (V. I. P.) (04/17/85)
I've been thinking for some time about the idea off having children. I
have a couple of real good female friends who I have
discussed the idea with briefly. Ideally, what I think I
would like to have is a situation where I share the
responsibility of raising the child with the woman on a
reciprocal basis (sort of). Unfortunately, the women I have
discussed this with are young and hope some day to marry
(sigh).
I am seeing someone now who has two children (which I almost
never see). I think, however, that I would make a very good
father and would like to share my experiences with a child.
I've, further, given a great deal of thought to getting
involved with the Big Brother program, but feel that my
lifestyle and affectional/sexual preferences may cause some
problems.
As I think about this it makes me realize how few female
friends I have, and how vastly different I am from my female
(heterosexual) friends. Interestingly, I have a great many
male friends that have this same sort of parenting
orientation. And, understandably, I have had some questions as
to the affect of lifestyles (and the importance of them) to
the rearing of children.
I would be interested in entering into a dialogue with men
and women on the net who are interested in single parenting.
I think it is an important and timely topic. I am
particularly interested in hearing from men who have been
involved in this sort of thing. Single parenting for women
has becomme widely accepted and virtually the norm,
particularly among minority and lesbian women. But for men,
I think this is still a relatively uncharted area.
Brian Day
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