levasseur@morgan.DEC (Ray EMD & S Admin 223-5027) (05/10/85)
In response to Steve Dyer's comment regarding my posting of "Why Gay Men
Lie"
Steve, I'm really sorry if I alienated you or anyone else. I agree fully
that one doesn't find honesty on the dance floor of Buddies (under 6' of
water), Chaps or any other bar. I only go to a bar with my roomate or friends
once in a while. Right now I'm going through an enormous amount of emotional
turmoil and probably went off half cocked. The ordeal with Dan, just recently
moving to Boston from a rural area and other things have me wound up pretty
tight right now.
What I was trying to get at is that a lot of gay folks I've chatted with
share the same opinion. I've met many fine gay guys who'd give you the shirt
off their back and are as honest as anyone can find. It's these others, who
seem to be more visible that bother me. I suppose that the same applies to
the straight singles scene from what female friends tell me.
Funny thing is that most of the losers/liars I met were outside of the
bar crowd. I was chatting with an aquaintance and my roomate last night over
just this issue; dishonesty. The other man, Dave told me from what he could
observe that I was too open and honest with people and left myself open to
these turkeys. His advice; harden myself, stop being a soft touch and the
liars should stay away. Well anyway, my apologies to anyone who may have
taken offense at my posting.
Regards, Ray
"Be as wise as serpents and gentle as lambs"