rlr@pyuxd.UUCP (Rich Rosen) (07/31/85)
> Many gays have no problem integrating their masculine sides > into their lives... or allowing their feminine sides to be a major portion > of their lives. Oh, some gays have problems (like, "I'm gay, I guess I have > to be a hairdresser"), ... [BROWER] Question: what about the reverse? ("I fit the gay stereotype, I guess I have to be gay.") -- "Wait a minute. '*WE*' decided??? *MY* best interests????" Rich Rosen ihnp4!pyuxd!rlr
sdyer@bbncc5.UUCP (Steve Dyer) (08/02/85)
[let's move this discussion insofar as it relates to gay people, wholly to net.motss] > > Many gays have no problem integrating their masculine sides > > into their lives... or allowing their feminine sides to be a major portion > > of their lives. Oh, some gays have problems (like, "I'm gay, I guess I have > > to be a hairdresser"), ... [BROWER] > > Question: what about the reverse? ("I fit the gay stereotype, I guess I > have to be gay.") Rich, this is a pet notion of yours which I've heard you express to me before in private mail, and at least three individual times during this last discussion. I have to admit that while I wouldn't dismiss this out of hand, it simply doesn't jibe with the experience of the gay people I know, including myself: that is, discovering one's affectional preference is very much an internal process which is ultimately expressed in external behavior, and not so much an example of being "convinced" or misled based on one's perception of the common stereotypes. -- /Steve Dyer {decvax,linus,ima,ihnp4}!bbncca!sdyer sdyer@bbnccv.ARPA