boroff@bagels.DEC (ERIC BOROFF) (11/14/85)
Whenever someone, foreign to our niche, views a gay relationship they immediately focus their attentions upon the 'bedroom'. I really find this maddening! Gay relationships, just like any other 'real' relationship, *do not* revolve around sex. Yes, that is a part of it; but it's far from the total picture. When I came out to my parents, this is the EXACT problem I had with them. All they ever wanted to talk about was the sex. It was as if I was in high school discussing all the details of last night date with my buddies. I asked my parents at one point, 'who is the offspring and who are the parents'? Finally, after many heated discussions, I got their minds out of my bedroom. Only then, were we able to sit down like adults and talk about the situation... I'm not touting or trying to convince anyone that this is the perfect solution - because, it's not - there is no such thing. However, there is a whole unseen world within the lifestyle between two people in love that you never hear about or read about or that someone observing from the outside could possibly understand. eric \|/ Path: decwrl!dec-rhea!dec-bagels!boroff