levasseur@morgan.DEC (Ray EMD & S Admin 223-5027) (11/27/85)
A net.motss penpal that I met a year ago has been quite nice in that he
has taken the time and effort to fully format just about every Jason article
I've posted into manuscript form. I've met this person last Spring while he
was in Boston on business.
He would rather remain anonymous since he is not as looudmouthed as I am
about declaring my sexuality and has asked me to post an article he wrote un-
der the pseudonym of Dionysus. I read the article and think that it's pretty
good, therefore I'm posting it at his request.
Regards, Ray (aka) Jason
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Page 1 Auntie Dion Chatters
Auntie Dion Chatters On
Well, everybody has heard or seen Jasons witty discourses on
Life and other useless topics. Auntie Dion tries to fill
the breach, what Jason doesn't cover Dion tries. Of course,
there might be good reason why Jason didn't but that won't
stop our Auntie. So, enjoy the Compleat Gay Advisor and
Encylopaedia.
Chapter 1
Hustlers,
or
Take the money and run
During your life you will meet up with a class of
people called "hustlers". Yes, I know that the Gay slang
calls a male prostitue a "hustler" and I include many of
those in my classification, but I consider a hustler a
broader group and distinct from the User/Loser that Jason
talks about. But they are related and overlap.
Let me tell you about one. I had an ad in the local
bar rag. "Danny" answered. He lived near and was lonely.
After a couple of dates it was clear that he was an aimless
soul. Later, it turned out that Danny and his family were
at odds. He moved in with me and Lee as a house boy for a
while. We'd give him room and board in exchange for
cleaning house and cooking, etc. It was made very clear
that he had to pay for his own booze and cigarettes.
Well, things went on okay for about a week. Then Lee
discovered a couple of packs of cigarettes missing. And I
discovered half of my trove of pennies gone. Then Lee was
missing his loose change. Over the 4th of July we left the
house in Danny's care. When we got back we found much of
the booze gone and other small disturbing things.
For various reasons, Lee never got around to giving
Danny hell for filching the cigarettes, and then eventually
Danny split. We were aware that he might be leaving and
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were not too broken up about it. But one day he wasn't there
when we got home from work.
After an inventory of the house and several days later
we discovered that we were missing: a back pack, a Stetson
hat and some clothes, some jewlery and part of a coin
collection stored in the basement. Later we got a call from
a "boy" asking if we needed a house-boy.
Danny wasn't a "real" hustler [prostitute] but close,
he had had sex with us and we suspected he hung around the
right neighborhood, but we don't think he actually was. Lest
you think we were unjustly accusing Danny, note that he left
a bag of clothes behind but last week when Lee as in the
Nutbush, when Danny saw Lee, Danny vanished in record time.
You'd think he would ask for his clothes.
For the information of all you good natured people,
Auntie Dion has the following thoughts to help you should
you meet this particular species of baracuda.
o Keep your valuables locked-up. Better yet keep
anything important in a safety deposit box. In hustler
circles it is common to go home with some one and while
you are busy (in the bathroom or shower) to rifle your
dresser. Don't keep valuable jewlery in or on your
dresser. Watch your checkbook; a common thing is to
steal a check or two from the middle of the book (or
several out of an unused checkbook).
o Know your tricks: Their name, where they live and what
they do. You need to know enough to come after them
should something be missing.
o Hide your important things before the fun and games
start. Wallet, house and car keys, even watch. This is
especially important if you are a heavy sleeper and you
and s/he plan to sleep afterwards. Make sure your
doors have dead bolt locks that lock with a key from
the inside. When with a trick, lock it and hide the
key. Then he can't leave without your knowlege. [One
man saved his life that way. The hustler couldn't
escape.]
o If you are going to his place make sure you remember
how you got there, especially if you take his car. It
might be a bad trip if afterwards he kicks you out and
makes you walk. If your are in doubt and your
hornyness won't wait make sure some one knows where you
went. [Read Jason on Fagbashers].
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o Know your tricks: If someone strange is involved,
check him out first. It is a good idea to become
friends with an old-timer in each bar you frequent so
you can get the dirt on people. Lee was saved from a
bad night because a local he knew could tell the dirt.
o Watch out for repeats. There are many stories about
people getting ripped-off or killed by a hustler after
several times together.
In additon to the more criminal behavior there are other
things to watch for.
- The person who is always asking you to pick them up and
drive them.
- They always seem to be broke and want you to buy them a
drink (or loan them a pack of cigarettes).
- If they are sharing rooms, they borrow your clothes.
- They want to borrow money. Maybe large sums.
Now what has the "hustler" have to do with Jason's Losers
and also the male prostitute. [Thought you'd never ask].
They are basically the same personality. Most people have
heard of the "Gold-digger". These sort of people have the
idea that someone else will solve their problems. The
prostitute has reduced this to a monetary science. The
Loser has so many problems he can't. The hustler still
isn't ready to sell his body for money, but he isn't above
taking advantage of people. Not all hustlers are theives.
Some are con artists and some are just free-loaders.
I have noted that the most of those I call hustlers are
either quite hot looking or have a good, pleasing, almost
ingratiating personality. They can persuade you to do more
than you ought and ofter more than you might otherwise. The
problem, of course, isn't limited to the Gay world -- female
bimbos abound. The trouble with Gays is that the emphasis
on superficial beauty starts the young and beautiful into
thinking that because they are so hot looking they can have
what they want. Then they find that people are so
enraptured with them they can get away with anything.
The last type of Hustler is the most dangerous and the
hardest to defend against. They come on to you. They seem
to want to be your <whatever>. Then they move in and things
go well. But, they really are just biding their time. Soon
they will take the money and run. Remember the guidelines
above:
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o Keep all personal as well as valuable items locked and
preferably out of the house. An ex-lover actually
would break open my strong box to see what was in it.
Others snooped in my bank records.
o Don't let people know your financial affairs. How much
you make, your bank accounts, credit card numbers, etc.
[This helps them know how much to ask for or wheedle.
It also gives them grist for gossip.]
o Keep your credit cards locked up. One of Lee's lovers
filched the cards and ran up several thousands of
dollars of bills before Lee found out.
o Make sure that all and sundry know that you will go to
the cops if bad things happen. Then do so. [Good
reason for being out to people]. Remember that many
hustlers get away with things because no one takes
action.
o And if the person does ANYTHING bad take action. One
person's bad experiences started because he allowed a
boy to get away with forging a small check.
o Also remember that the hustler has no shame. He will
deny that he did it. Or, worse yet, confess and ask
forgiveness. (This depends on how sure he is that you
know and can prove it).
I suppose that the parasites will always be with us. The
key is to recognize that and develop techniques to live
amongst them. We all need to learn to say no and to sense
when things are not quite right.
Then why do people get into trouble or get involved
with hustlers? First, these people really take advantage of
their sexuality and their looks! Some people are so hard up
for < affection, sex, what you will > that it is easy to
lull their suspicions and take advantage of them. Some
hustlers are so agressive and suave they fast talk you into
things. Most people are nice and good-natured and don't
like to say no. Gays are even more afraid of rejection than
straights. Thus, any friendly person is to be treasured.
Better a neurotic queen than nobody. Better a User than
nobody.
Then of course are those who have an optimistic
outlook. Like Candide, some people still think that people
are decent and honest. Some are, some aren't. And some
think they are smarter and clever than the hustler and are
willing to take the chance.
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The real problem is those people who tend to be
attracted towards the hustler either as a personality type
or as a sexual image. We all know them or of them -- the
chicken hawk, the auntie who likes the rough trade. There
isn't much that will help those people. It's like the moth
and the candle. They have to be realistic about the risks
and act to minimize them. And, hopefully they will learn
and become more cautious.
But what about the rest of us? Be careful. Lock the
doors and watch out.
--
Dionysus