mark@apple.UUCP (Mark Lentczner) (02/18/86)
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Ok, the volume on net.motss has been a bit overwhelming (about time...)
and I have a bunch of things to add my two cents to. I'll try to be
breif about this, so don't interpret my short explinations as lack of
though :-) Here goes...
1) "Us Look Bad"
a) There is nothing wrong with sexual advertising/articles in some
gay magazines in my mind. In think someone elses comment (forgot
the name) that there are (or should be) enough gay publications
that they will cater to various likes/dislikes is very apt. It
not only applies to whether people like/dislike sexual items but
also any like/dislike. ("Where can I find a literay rag with some
sexual stuff, and just the right blen of politics, etc...")
b) Someone else said that the commonality of being gay was essentially
being sexual with a member of the same sex. I couldn't disagree
more. The commonality of being gay is having a 'deep' relationship
with a member of the same sex. Now 'deep' may mean sexual for some
and may mean marriage for others and may mean any range of things
in between - but I feel the essence is the same sex reltaion part,
not just what that relation is.
2) "Effeminate behavior"
I, too, am a little put off by the article form the MIT person regarding
effeminate behavior. I have known many effeminate men (or rather many
man with a range of 'effeminate' behaviors) both straight and gay. The
key is that with social acceptance people with behave as they feel most
natural and that's fine with me if it's leather butch or raging queen or
anywhere in between. And furthermore, I hope that we stop thinking in
terms of catagories of behavior, since people change or time and circustance:
I can be 'straight looking/acting' (st lkg/actg :-) as well as swish.
It depends on how I feel at the time...
3) "Children"
Damn it, children are a burning gay topic! I'm a gay male and I want to
raise children. Case in point. (And I'd love to hear more on the net from
people raising children in homes with two gay adults)
-mark lentczner