mark@apple.UUCP (Mark Lentczner) (02/18/86)
[] Ok, the volume on net.motss has been a bit overwhelming (about time...) and I have a bunch of things to add my two cents to. I'll try to be breif about this, so don't interpret my short explinations as lack of though :-) Here goes... 1) "Us Look Bad" a) There is nothing wrong with sexual advertising/articles in some gay magazines in my mind. In think someone elses comment (forgot the name) that there are (or should be) enough gay publications that they will cater to various likes/dislikes is very apt. It not only applies to whether people like/dislike sexual items but also any like/dislike. ("Where can I find a literay rag with some sexual stuff, and just the right blen of politics, etc...") b) Someone else said that the commonality of being gay was essentially being sexual with a member of the same sex. I couldn't disagree more. The commonality of being gay is having a 'deep' relationship with a member of the same sex. Now 'deep' may mean sexual for some and may mean marriage for others and may mean any range of things in between - but I feel the essence is the same sex reltaion part, not just what that relation is. 2) "Effeminate behavior" I, too, am a little put off by the article form the MIT person regarding effeminate behavior. I have known many effeminate men (or rather many man with a range of 'effeminate' behaviors) both straight and gay. The key is that with social acceptance people with behave as they feel most natural and that's fine with me if it's leather butch or raging queen or anywhere in between. And furthermore, I hope that we stop thinking in terms of catagories of behavior, since people change or time and circustance: I can be 'straight looking/acting' (st lkg/actg :-) as well as swish. It depends on how I feel at the time... 3) "Children" Damn it, children are a burning gay topic! I'm a gay male and I want to raise children. Case in point. (And I'd love to hear more on the net from people raising children in homes with two gay adults) -mark lentczner