diliddo@dec-mlfs1.UUCP (03/04/86)
> >I feel that the response I am seeing on the net about a new stereotype >for gays is somewhat of an overreaction. > >I think that these movies have shown some positive role >models for young gays > I agree that the steroetype of gays on TV and movies has greatly improved; over the years no mater how plastic they seem. When I was fifteen going through the awful stage of realizing that the high school jocks were calling me 'fag' for a reason the last thing I needed to see was "The Boys in the Band" on the late show; seeing Emery swishing around calling everyone "Mary" I wanted to kill myself right then and there. I knew I was gay and I was petrified that I might actually act that way some day. It came as a great relief when I began coming out and found that not all gays acted effeminate. I know I'm going to get a lot of flames for saying this but I CAN'T STAND effeminate acting gays! Oh sure, I've got lots of friends that I've met at the local bar that camp it up, but I'd be embarrassed to be seen with some of them in public. I know I've got a very negative opinion but the truth is the truth! Being gay doesn't mean you've got to act the part. If guys want to pretend that they're in the cast of "Dynasty" (a few of my friends actually do!) inside a gay bar then that's fine; all I ask is that they keep it to themselves when they see me in public! I've got friends that act the part ...SURE they are some of the sweetest guys I know but as far as even ATTEMPTING a relationship with a flame...FORGET IT... To me being gay means that I find *men* sexually attractive not pseudo-men who live on gossip about what a bitch this one or that one is. I'm trying my best not to pontificate too much but this subject struck a chord with me! I've seen friends of mine in high school who started getting into the bar scene only to become the exact type I'm talking about. It seems that the yearning to fit in with everyone else is the biggest downfall to gay masculinity (..wait is that a oxymoron? I hope not!) Replys as well as Mail Welcome Jim.....the angry young you-know-what!!!