[net.women.only] net relationships?

CHF@PSUVM.BITNET (02/17/85)

Anyone out there ever gotten involved with someone via the net?
If so , how did things work out? Do you think it is possible to
get to know someone via ascii characters on a terminal? I'm finding
myself in the strange position of falling for someone I've never met!
I'm sure I'm not the first!! Anyone out there care to share their experiences?


                                         Christine

phyllis@utcsri.UUCP (Phyllis Eve Bregman) (02/19/85)

> Anyone out there ever gotten involved with someone via the net?

After living with someone I met via the net (more or less) for
three years, we got married last May.  So, I guess things worked
out well for us...
-- 
		Phyllis Eve Bregman
		CSRI, Univ. of Toronto
		{decvax,linus,ihnp4,uw-beaver,allegra,utzoo}!utcsri!phyllis
		CSNET:  phyllis@toronto

sommers@topaz.ARPA (Liz Sommers) (02/22/85)

I never fell for anybody I met over Usenet, but I have fallen for
at least 3 people over Arpa.  One did not work out, one we will see
about, and one is in negotiation.  

Net relationships are difficult, a large number of problems are
created when the participants in a relationship do not see each other.
THe one plus is that you have become FRIENDS before you become
lovers.
-- 

liz sommers
uucp:   ...{harvard, seismo, ut-sally, sri-iu, ihnp4!packard}!topaz!sommers
arpa:   sommers@rutgers

mmmm, mail.  gimme more mail.

annab@azure.UUCP (A Beaver) (02/27/85)

>References: <1585CHF@PSUVM> <744@topaz.ARPA>

> 
> Net relationships are difficult, a large number of problems are
> created when the participants in a relationship do not see each other.
> THe one plus is that you have become FRIENDS before you become
> lovers.
>	 liz sommers

	Since I started sending out articles on the net at the begining
	of December, I have started exchanging mail with a few people.
	I must admit that there is a certain element of 'Mystery' around
	the idea of writing to someone whom you've never met. 
	Sure, it's true that you find out quite a bit about the person
	who is writing to you by the way that they expess their ideas.
	However, you cannot tell what is valid, only how they FEEL about
	what you talk about. One has no way of knowing about personal
	habits or looks, only the expression of feelings as pressented.
	So, right off you have something in common. We ALL have feelings
	and it is always easier to talk about yourself, so it can be easy
	to open up.	I mean, for your next letter, try something like...
	.....	Let's talk about you.......
	And see how far the letter gets.
	Back to the point of this...
	My friend, Bill, expressed some concern over me actually meeting
	and having lunch with my new found friend, Snoopy, whom I had been
	writing to for over a month. Now, Bill is a pretty level headed
	guy most of the time, but we ended up having this rather involved
	conversation about friends and relationships. HE was actually
	concerned that I might get caught up in the situation. 'I', on the
	other hand, have been able to disolve some of those imaginary
	senarios which pop up while reading e-mail. (Snoopy turned out to
	be a pretty nice guy by the way)

	E-mail is really a nice thing to have, especially when you are 
	at the terminal anyway. Or layed-up as I am.
	So much for my $.02.	Good Luck.

	 Annadiana Beaver
	A Beaver@Tektronix	"Words, for instence, exist as energy.
			     The essence of their meanings is often lost."
						- Onoffon -