[net.women] another side to children

denise (01/25/83)

My mother worked while my brother and I were growing up and I do not feel
that we missed out on anything.  My brother is now seventeen and I am 
twenty.  Neither of ever had to talk to somebody elses mother NOW 
because ours would not be home till six.  My father has always helped
out around the house.  Both are parents were there to talk to us if we
needed them.
  I firmly believe that both me and my bother are well adjusted and
if need be self-sufficient.  I have lived on my own and after I
graduated high school I but myself through a state school for the
first two years untill my general education was out of the way.
I will always be gratful to my parents for helping me out with fees for
the UC system.  My brother will start at Berkely next year.

wakeup (01/26/83)

     Only my father worked, my mother was a "housewife", I am the last child
of three. Eventhough both my parents did not work, my fater was and is a
very selfish person similar to some people writing on this net. HE always
came first, my mother and the kids last. From experience I know this is no
way to raise children. To be good parents there must be an element of
self sacrifice, ie the kids come first most of the time. I see in myself
some selfishness and my wife and I have long discussions about having childern
because I question if we can sacrifice enough. Just because both parents work
does not mean they are bad parents. In fact most of the families in my home
town all adults had to work to afford to live but raised "normal" children.
The bad thing I see are these selfcentered people having children, for what
reason I do not know. Do they understand what they are doing to their kids?
Most likely they will grow up resenting their parents and being overly
selfish themselves and continue propigating this poor attitude.