jamcmullan (02/22/83)
"Well, Barb is about as much like one of the guys as you can get
without being one of the guys."
...how would you react to such a statement? Do you think it
would be a compliment to you?
I wouldn't consider it a COMPLIMENT exactly. I would say it just showed that
they knew you well enough to feel you wouldn't be offended by the joke they
had made & they weren't so sure of the other woman. If it had happended to me
I would have felt it was more of an insult to the other woman, rather than a
compliment to me. I would probably challenge their assumption that the other
woman would be shocked by the joke, by repeating it to her, if I thought it
she would react well. If I knew her well enough to know she wouldn't like it,
I would confirm "I don't think you want to hear it".
I guess the point is, I wouldn't like to feel I was assuming the role of "one
of the guys" to the extent that I would shut other women out from "our world".
--Judy McMullan