[net.women] "Person/Man" - important, but is now the time to change it?

sdb@shark.UUCP (Steven Den Beste) (08/29/83)

When I was younger and the issue of equal rights for women did not mean
anything to me (gasp) one way or the other, I found that certain tactics
used by the more militant members of the Women's rights movement tended
to offend me - and tended to turn me against them, when without those
tactics I would have stayed neutral.

Yes, friends, I was against ERA the first time around. (I have since come
to my senses.)

Why? First, I strongly dislike the use of blackmail to
pass laws - they ought to pass based on their merits, not on the economic
power of their partisans. I was offended by the boycott against non-passing
states.

Second - you want to join the game, you gotta play by the rules. The two
year extension was and is unconstitutional - there is nothing in the
constitution to allow such a thing. Even if the three extra states had
passed in those two years - a supreme court test would have tossed it
out.

Third - I found it difficult to take seriously any person (and by extension
any movement) that put a vast almost-hysterical emphasis on points that to
me seemed really trivial.


I think that responses such as these were very common, and served to alienate
a large population of men (and women too) who would have been neutral or
slightly positive otherwise.

That brings me to the title of this article and the point of it: I think
that feminists are doing themselves a disservice by concentrating on
points such as sexist language useage. Most of the people using the
language in that way are probably neutral or slightly positive towards
the women's rights issue - but if you make that a major point of your drive,
you have successfully driven many of them into your enemy's camp.

If you could only change one thing in the next 20 years, would the language
be it? Hell no!

Get economic equality first - concentrate on the big one. When half of
the CEO's in this country are women, you can bet that the lower executives
are going to quit referring to human resources as "men".

If you get the big one out of the way, the language problem will solve
itself.

An organization that contributed greatly to my reversal of opinion was
the League of Women Voters. When I see an organization as well run, as
dignified and as effective as that one, my feeling is "Not only do I want
them in the process - I think maybe they should be running it!" Isn't that
the attitude you want to engender (oops) in the vast neutral population?

By concentrating on the language problem - which is admittedly sexist -
you could win a pyrhic victory. You might change the language, but you
could alienate so many people doing it that you might make it twice as
hard to win the really BIG issue.

May I dive for my foxhole now? INCOMING!!!

   Steve Den Beste
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