mazur@inmet.UUCP (01/26/84)
#N:inmet:10900033:000:3140 inmet!mazur Jan 24 18:06:00 1984 ***** inmet:net.women / ccieng5!jbf / 11:31 pm Dec 8, 1983 > I would rather go through several rapes that left me unscarred but > frightened than spend much of my life in prison, where rape may be > the routine. Most women do not find the false accusal frightening > at all, since they will never be in such a position. I think that most people would wish that their rape left them just "unscarred but frightened". I agree that most women aren't afraid of false accusal. I think false accusal is a risk men take when they are into casual sex, just as women and a minority of men risk rape. > I have always avoided the risk of being falsely accused of rape by > a very simple method: the first time I have sex with a girl, I choose > a conspicuous location. Since many people will notice that she is > perfectly willing, any subsequent accusals of rape will have low > credibility. In his third posting, jbf claims that this posting was in a "less serious vein" and that he doesn't like to "confuse a serious discussion with an obliquely related satire". I was under the impression that comments that were intended as satire were to be marked with a ":-)". Apparantly, both the first respondent and I missed the satire. ***** inmet:net.women / ccieng5!jbf / 9:24 pm Jan 6, 1984 > As a matter of fact, I have been mugged. I have been sexually > assaulted. In both cases I suffered some physical damage (not > serious, but considerably more serious than the damage a minimal > rape implies). Big deal. > If a person reacts to a rape, assault, bad joke, or a gift of > flowers with a mental breakdown, that is the weakness > of the victim, not the sole fault of the assailant. Only in > the first case has the assailant actually committed an immoral > act: he has rubbed a portion of his skin against the skin of the > victim without the victim's permission, and has detained the victim > for awhile. If the rape was vaginal, risk of pregnancy is also involved. The fact that you have the attitude displayed above is the weakness of you. ***** inmet:net.women / ccieng5!jbf / 10:46 am Jan 20, 1984 > We can not control the behavior of every degenerate outside the > law (without totally destroying everyone's privacy), but WE CAN > try to insure a just legal system. I would rather worry about > the criminals that might try to victimize me than the society that > might randomly pick me as a scapegoat. Randomly? Open the phone book and point? I think it's a hell of a lot easier to avoid being picked as a scapegoat than it is to avoid being picked as a rape victim. > ... the original was a separate posting, in a less serious vein. > I don't like to confuse a serious discussion with an obliquely > related satire. Some people have mentioned that they missed the original posting. I have them and all responses. This summary posted to give anybody who missed it some of the "finer :-)" points of jbf's "serious discussion". Beth Mazur {harpo,ima,esquire}!inmet!mazur