[net.women] net.women.only: Courtesy, and peace...

jj@rabbit.UUCP (03/26/84)

Alas, I was planning to stay out of this debate, but I have to say
that the recent resounding PLOP surrounding net.women.only has finally
managed to drag me in.

It's clear, just from the astonishing attitude and courtesy that
has been recently shown in net.women.only by MEN, that 
net.women.only is necessary.  Furthermore, it's clear that
MALES should NOT post in this newsgroup (go ahead read it,
I do, and I occasionally MAIL something to someone, the idea
of not READING it is stupid, how else will either half of the human 
race understand the other half?)  because of several reasons,
the first being that some men will post exactly the offensive comments
that the newsgroup was created to avoid, and the second being that
some women will object to the presence of a male-written article in
the newsgroup regardless of its attitude.

I regard both of these reasons as unfortunate, however,
that's the way the world works.  I, for one, don't like other
males encouraging belief in the stereotypical male behavior.
Neither do I appreciate being lumped in with those who DO
exhibit the stereotypical male behavior by those individuals
(of both sexes) who use the existance of such stereotypical
behavior to encourage the use of stereotypes.

I'm going to continue reading net.women.only, and I plan to
avoid posting there.  If I see a subject of interest, I will
mail the writer, or post an article here, in net.women,
where discussion HAS BEEN AGREED to be appropriate.  

While I do agree that being excluded from posting in a group
is potentially offensive, I also think that there is great benefit to
both males and females when each is aware of the other's
problems, fears, etc.     Such communication cannot and will not
take place in an atmosphere where the poster fears ridicule.

While I would like to see the establishment of a net.men and
net.men.only, I figure that I'm probably the only one who
wants that.  <Among other things, discussion of male behavior
should BE in net.men, not net.women, and there ARE
(like it or not, guys) problems, comments, etc, that affect
ONLY men, in exactly the same fashion that there are things
that affect only women.  (I don't think I need to be graphic.)>

Please, folks, move the ravings into net.flame, the discussion
of the appropriateness of a newsgroup into net.news.group,
<In this case, there seems to be no need for discussion, the group is
well, and active.> male written articles in to net.women (not .only),
and sensitive women's issues into net.women only.  (I'm NOT
going to define sensitive.  If the poster feels sensitive about
a posting, it's a sensitive issue.)

We're all in this together, like it or not!
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