rlr@pyuxn.UUCP (Rich Rosen) (03/20/84)
> I wish to stimulate some controversy over a feeling that a few of us > here at BTL share. Is it true that a womens views of sex change after > she has 'caught her man'? In a few instances here we find a women, > previously interested in physical attention, have, since marriage, lost > the lust. Is this the common phenomenon, or not? Also, have you ever > noticed that a women will wear her hair shorter after marriage? I think it is a much, much more general phenomenon than "women after marriage", as the author of this article seemed to think. In fact, I tend to think that one of THE primary factors in relationship problems (of all kinds) is the notion that there are different sets of behavior (tactics?), one set used while seeking a MOTOS (often called 'prowling' or 'hunting' by some), and one set used once the MOTOS has been 'caught' (this sort of terminology is rampant), as if to say "he/she is mine now, I don't have any need to behave towards him/her in a civilized way; I can be myself". (This of course implies that the normal set of behavior rules this person follows would qualify as "uncivilized".) The differences seem to fall into two categories. In one, the "seeking" behavior is an artificial mode of behavior used by the "seeker" to convince the "seekee" that the "seeker" is a desireable person (including extensions of courtesy, particular modes of dress/makeup/etc., ...), in contrast to a lack of such behavior in a "post-seeking" mode. In the other category, peccadillos/idiosyncrasies are hidden while seeking a MOTOS, but are "revealed" once the people have established a relationship. These sort of behavior patterns are far from restricted to one sex or the other. In fact, they may qualify as a superset of 'male-possession-of-women' type behaviors. (Rather, those behaviors may be a subset of the ones I am describing.) Comments? -- Some people talk with their hands, other people talk with their psychiatrists. Rich Rosen pyuxn!rlr
rlr@pyuxn.UUCP (Rich Rosen) (03/28/84)
[I am reposting this because it appears that it was never really sent out. My apologies if this is a duplication.] > I wish to stimulate some controversy over a feeling that a few of us > here at BTL share. Is it true that a womens views of sex change after > she has 'caught her man'? In a few instances here we find a women, > previously interested in physical attention, have, since marriage, lost > the lust. Is this the common phenomenon, or not? Also, have you ever > noticed that a women will wear her hair shorter after marriage? I think it is a much, much more general phenomenon than "women after marriage", as the author of this article seemed to think. In fact, I tend to think that one of THE primary factors in relationship problems (of all kinds) is the notion that there are different sets of behavior (tactics?), one set used while seeking a MOTOS (often called 'prowling' or 'hunting' by some), and one set used once the MOTOS has been 'caught' (this sort of terminology is rampant), as if to say "he/she is mine now, I don't have any need to behave towards him/her in a civilized way; I can be myself". (This of course implies that the normal set of behavior rules this person follows would qualify as "uncivilized".) The differences seem to fall into two categories. In one, the "seeking" behavior is an artificial mode of behavior used by the "seeker" to convince the "seekee" that the "seeker" is a desireable person (including extensions of courtesy, particular modes of dress/makeup/etc., ...), in contrast to a lack of such behavior in a "post-seeking" mode. In the other category, peccadillos/idiosyncrasies are hidden while seeking a MOTOS, but are "revealed" once the people have established a relationship. These sort of behavior patterns are far from restricted to one sex or the other. In fact, they may qualify as a superset of 'male-possession-of-women' type behaviors. (Rather, those behaviors may be a subset of the ones I am describing.) Comments? -- "I'm not dead yet!" "Oh, don't be such a baby!" Rich Rosen pyuxn!rlr
rlr@pyuxn.UUCP (Rich Rosen) (03/28/84)
> I wish to stimulate some controversy over a feeling that a few of us > here at BTL share. Is it true that a womens views of sex change after > she has 'caught her man'? In a few instances here we find a women, > previously interested in physical attention, have, since marriage, lost > the lust. Is this the common phenomenon, or not? Also, have you ever > noticed that a women will wear her hair shorter after marriage? I think it is a much, much more general phenomenon than "women after marriage", as the author of this article seemed to think. In fact, I tend to think that one of THE primary factors in relationship problems (of all kinds) is the notion that there are different sets of behavior (tactics?), one set used while seeking a MOTOS (often called 'prowling' or 'hunting' by some), and one set used once the MOTOS has been 'caught' (this sort of terminology is rampant), as if to say "he/she is mine now, I don't have any need to behave towards him/her in a civilized way; I can be myself". (This of course implies that the normal set of behavior rules this person follows would qualify as "uncivilized".) The differences seem to fall into two categories. In one, the "seeking" behavior is an artificial mode of behavior used by the "seeker" to convince the "seekee" that the "seeker" is a desireable person (including extensions of courtesy, particular modes of dress/makeup/etc., ...), in contrast to a lack of such behavior in a "post-seeking" mode. In the other category, peccadillos/idiosyncrasies are hidden while seeking a MOTOS, but are "revealed" once the people have established a relationship. These sort of behavior patterns are far from restricted to one sex or the other. In fact, they may qualify as a superset of 'male-possession-of-women' type behaviors. (Rather, those behaviors may be a subset of the ones I am describing.) Comments? -- "I'm not dead yet!" "Oh, don't be such a baby!" Rich Rosen pyuxn!rlr