peterr@utcsrgv.UUCP (Peter Rowley) (08/30/84)
If being strong involves making quick decisions and being sensitive involves taking the feelings of others into account when making decisions, it appears that sensitivity and being strong are at odds, since taking the feelings of others into account involves spending time determining what those feelings are (not at all easy) and then balancing them (also hard). Only with extra effort can the two coexist. As has been said, though, it is clearly worth it much of the time, and one can develop an intuition for when to lean to making quick decisions or to taking the time to see how people feel. At least it seems possible-- I don't know of anyone who pulls it off particularly well. (Alan Alda? :-) p. rowley, Univ. Toronto