mmr@wuphys.UUCP (Martha Minton Reiner) (09/21/84)
CALL ME A WOMAN by Nancy Smith, "Upper Room", Nashville TN 1976, p. 15. I am twenty five And when I am called a girl I speak like a girl; I flirt and giggle and play dumb. But when I remember I am a woman, I put away childish things And speak out, and share, and love. I am thirty-six And when I am called a girl I think like a girl; I feel incompetent So I serve and help the men around me. But when I remember I am a woman, I put away childish things And work, and create, and achieve. I am fifty-two And when I am called a girl I understand like a girl; I let others protect me from the world. But when I remember I am a woman, I put away childish things And decide, and risk, and live my own life. This was in the book: _The Sexes at Work_ by Dr. Lois B. Hart and Dr. J. David Dalke on page 62,63. The chapter can be summarized in the following sentences: . . . "Most men approach the language issue from the exterior, monitoring their swearing and joke telling. The concern is deeper, more internal for women and has historical significances and deep implications. 'The problem is the way men refer to women, not the way women refer to men'. For women it represent an attack on their personhood; for men, it is literally a choice of words.'" I recommend this book with some reservations: do not expect a book rich in deep thoughts. It is, however, a realistic portrayal of problems in the work force and gives examples and solutions to those problems. The research is based on a survey sent to men and women through the mail, and is based also on direct contact through interviews and workshops. -Martha